1. Don't Be Scared Of Expressing Your Needs And Preferences
People in relationships, especially women, are afraid of telling their often-new partner what they desire and want out of the relationship. As a result, they are afraid to express their needs and expectations to their partner.
That fear is mainly because they don’t want to hear an answer they do not like. Assuming what you’re asking isn’t unreasonable, then it’s up to the other person to decide whether to do that or not. If they can, great. If they can’t, then it is up to you to decide how important it is to you.
However, you have to communicate with your partner or else the situation will remain unresolved. For example, let’s say you prefer phone calls, but the person you’re dating only texts you. If you don’t tell the other person your preferences and simply reply to all of the texts, then that is what you get.
2. What You Get Is What You Permit.
You cannot find yourself in a toxic relationship unless you consent to be there. If someone is treating you in a way you don’t like but you accept it, then that is the treatment you will get. If you have been in a relationship that is toxic to your health and general well-being from January to July, it is time to take a stand and make a change. The heart is too fragile to be found in an emotionally damaged atmosphere.
3. When Out On A Date - Payment Of Bills Has No Gender
Move out of the mindset that believes the man must be the one to pick up the check. I know a lady, Lydia, who confirms her dates' budget before agreeing to go on the date. She finds out how much you’ll be able to spend on her and evaluates your financial status before she can decide if going on a date with you will be a reality.
This lady has no intention of paying for a dime while out on a date. The world has truly evolved from the stage when such a mindset was upheld. In recent times, the independent state of a woman has been a huge attraction to a man. So, if you can relieve a man of a small check, you give him every reason to believe that he won't run out of energy trying to keep up with your needs. I know that, like Lydia, some ladies do the evaluation thing to guys they do not like, but it's not worth losing your standards and virtue over. If you don't like a guy, simply refuse to go out on a date with him. Don't go out on a date with the intention of burning the guy's pocket; trust me, it causes more harm than good.
This is for the ladies... In 2022, try your best to pick up the check alongside the man. It does more good for you than bad. Men appreciate and respect women who can assist with bill payments. You come off as independent and also as industrious to a man when you’re able to make him save a few bucks, no matter how much money he has. You will not only gain the man's respect, but he will also consider you wife material. This tip is not just for any lady but for ladies looking to make a statement.
4. Drinks Only On The First Date, Dinner Can Come Later.
Go on a first date for a drink, coffee, or a walk. Then, if you're having a good time, you can fix a longer date and get food. Dinner dates are longer dates. If you arrange for dinner and can't stand each other (no one hopes for this, but it happens), you are stuck at dinner. You have to go through the awkwardness of the date while trying to swallow food.
Wine bars are great—they usually have a good food menu. You could fix a date, and have drinks at the start of it. If you’re having a good time, then you can stay longer and order for food.
*5. What You Don’t Know, Ask.
Don’t be scared or too proud to ask questions. Asking questions will help build the relationship faster than if you were trying to figure it all out on your own. The risky thing about trying to figure it out on your own is that you are prone to misinterpreting the actions of your partner.
I get questions every time about what something means that someone said. The reality of it is that I can make an educated guess, but in the end, only the person who said it knows. If you’re not sure of what something means, don't assume. A lot of relationships have been destroyed because of assumptions. It is best to ask the person who said it.
Thank you for reading this week's tips. Next week, I will give you more tips on how to date in 2022. Feel free to leave a comment. I would love to hear your contributions to these tips. You can also suggest the next topic you would like me to write about. I'm hoping to hear from you soon. See you next week.