Finding someone is easy nowadays; there are so many dating apps that you can use, and social media helps a lot in connecting people.
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The sad truth is that there is no guarantee that the people we find using these tools will be good life partners. Some had luck finding a good partner using dating apps and social media, but that is only a small percentage.
Because it is hard to find a good life partner nowadays, most people have given up on love, and their disappointments made them give up on finding a good partner. These days, most people are already satisfied living a single life and having a casual fling occasionally.
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Humans are not born to be single; we are wired to find a partner. The only problem is that most of us end up with a bad partner, which leads to a bad relationship.
What you should we avoid when finding a good partner
Place: don't look for a good partner in places like bars, clubs, or parties where most people are only after good times. Whether you're a man or a woman, this is not the place to find love.
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Dating apps: The majority of people here are only after fun (casual sex, flings). You don't know anything about them, which makes it dangerous.
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Social Media: Unless you know the guy or girl personally, it is fine, but if it is just a friend of a casual friend or someone who just added you, don't expect their words to be true.
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Note:
People are not who they seem to be on social media and dating sites; it is very easy to disguise yourself using manipulated images. A person loving a pet on social media will not guarantee that they are a nice person.
Factors that can help you find a good partner
Occasions like weddings, family gatherings, birthdays, company gatherings, clubs, organizations, and churches are good chances to meet good people.
Acquaintances, relatives, and friends: Pick the most descent person that you know, by descent meaning they have good values in life (are not bums, respect family values, have good character) and don't have a vice or bad habit (drinking, partying, gambling). If you are lucky, one of them might know someone decent and nice that they could introduce to you.
Characteristics of a Good Partner
Before reading further, I would like you to analyze yourself first to see if you are a good partner.
Loyal: A good partner is loyal and faithful to their partner. It includes not being flirty, not seducing other people, and not thinking that you can find a better partner because you got tired.
Responsible: A good partner understands that there are responsibilities they need to fulfill when they are already in a relationship. A potential partner knows that a relationship needs responsible individuals for it to work.
Has goals; a good partner Whether a man or a woman has goals that they want to achieve, a good goal doesn't necessarily mean they want to be rich and famous someday; a good goal is wanting to have a family in the future. You are looking for a life partner, not a benefactor.
Hobbies: A good potential partner has healthy hobbies; they can be sports, reading, or any productive hobbies. not hobbies like playing computer games, shopping, binge-watching, or partying and drinking.
Has good morals and values, if your morals and values fit the universal morals and values standard, that is a plus. Remember, finding a good partner can end up building a family. If you don't have good morals and values, what will you teach your future kids? Good values also include good social and family values.
Has good friends: We've all heard of the saying "Birds with the same feathers flock together," although it is not totally true in some cases. Friends are a great influence on how one thinks or acts; if you have good friends, chances are you are also good.
God-loving and God-fearing: Of course we want this relationship to end in marriage. God is the creator of marriage; a person who doesn't love, fear, or even believe God will not value the sanctity of marriage.
Bottom line: Seek a good partner if you are also good, because even if you find one, chances are they will not like you back if you don't have the qualities of a good partner. A good partner will know if someone is a potential partner for them and will avoid people they think are bad choices.
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Factors you need to consider to find a good partner
Physical Attraction
Although some might say that this is not an important factor in finding a good partner, I believe it is one factor to consider to be a loyal partner. The problem is that most people engage with whoever is available to be their partner at that time, and when the time comes that someone better-looking comes into their life and flirts with them, they become unfaithful.
Choose a partner that you like physically, but you must also consider if your looks fit their preferences. Don't force a relationship by using status, money, and power just to get the partner that you want.
I know some people (men and women) who use fame, power, and money to get the person they want, but in the end, the other person will just leave them or cheat on them.
Morals and values
Conversations are definitely one way of knowing someone's morals and values, but be cautious; some people are good liars. Analyze their point of view regarding matters, and you will know what kind of values they have.
Another way of knowing someone's values is through group dates, asking another couple to join you, or introducing them to your group of friends and seeing how they respond socially.
People with good morals and values are good partners in life because they will help you grow into a much better person.
Habits and Hobbies
You can tell if a person is responsible by analyzing their habits and hobbies. A person whose hobbies are productive is a good candidate. People who only like fun and easy things to do have a higher chance of neglecting their relationship obligations. These people don't like duties and hard work.
Although it might seem hard to find a good partner nowadays because the world is in a new era, don't lose hope; some people are willing to change when it comes to love and when they find the right one. They may be lost for now, but who knows? Maybe they'll see the light in you.
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