I have learned that when I give healthy LOVE, it is always a good time to be supportive and to care for my loved ones and affections, to help whoever needs me, it is my way of keeping hope alive in me.Hope is a state of permanent construction.

I am going through a mourning a year ago, for a strong family situation, I am still living the mourning for the irreparable loss of a niece, whom I helped in her upbringing since she was a baby, she was a daughter to me.

Lilly was 22 years old, sick with Leukemia, it was a year of transition for her illness, it was very painful and strong for the family, I was devastated. Lilly passed away on April 15, 2021.

After that I was very bad emotionally, living the natural process that is unique and different in each person. Grief that I cannot deny, nor force in the process, since it has its own time.

My emotions were unpleasant, they still are; sadness, anger, resentment, impotence, guilt, among others, moved my life.

I know that these emotions are normal when we have losses of any kind (material, divorce, separation due to distance, even death itself, as in Lilly's case).

After her death, Lilly's family was fractured, her parents divorced after Lilly's death, another loss, fortunately my close affections have remained present, with the accompaniment in the distance.

Lilly's illness and death occurred during the Covid-19 pandemic, you can imagine the magnitude of the grief in the family, because at that time everything changed because of the virus worldwide. We could not all be together.

A year has passed since that April 15 when she left. I sought professional help (therapist) to overcome the grief. This has really been the best decision to overcome without fear and without pause my emotional stability.

I understand that this grief takes time and that there are several fundamental tasks that I must accomplish to overcome my grief. Also thanks to the guidance of my therapy, the learning has been wonderful and timely for me.

I have learned that these tasks occur chronologically (one at a time) and can be interspersed and even repeated when I feel I am losing the meaning of life. Below I share them with you.

I have accepted the reality of this loss. Fighting denial and understanding that Lilly is no longer with me physically.

I work on my emotions by feeling them, so that I can give myself permission to discover the new meaning of life that comes with her death.

Adapting to the environment where she lived, her personal things, her room, her smell, strength and maturity to face what she had to live; now she is absent.

Assuming with strength the momentum of her youth and how every weekend we shared playing cards, Ludo, watching movies, laughing, making jokes about anything, reading life stories, Lilly loved her life, I think her great role in my life was to be my company; for her it was "My other mom" so she used to tell me.

In this stage of her absence I have learned to develop new abilities to reorganize myself. This task is important because in it I can get a new meaning for my life.

It is fundamental not to forget what I loved her so much, but I know that I must give her a different place in my life, in a special place that allows me to continue living and relating with other people around her, I know it hurts me a lot, but I must go on.

I strengthen and deepen my spirituality and my faith. I have seen how by approaching God through prayer, not feeling alone in my pain, this has helped me to overcome, to feel accompanied, guided and comforted by a loving and infinitely merciful Father, who gives me strength that I did not know I had and a peace that can only come from Him.

As I go through and overcome the grief of my niece Lilly, I remember and value the moments I lived with her with much love,that gives me strength, purpose, impulse, strengthens the change, these memories are a treasure for me.

I know that grief is different according to the affinity, consanguinity of the loved one and their circumstances (maturity, old age, chronic or invaded disease; accidents). Everything influences; what is important for me in this experience is to appreciate the details of their love; you only miss the one you love.

And love transcends time, remembering my beloved Lilly with Peace is what allows me to continue on this plane honoring all that I lived with her; she was very special to me.

What I am doing with the help of grief therapy is not to forget her, it is to be able to remember her without so much pain, it is to remember her with peace, that her death is meaningful, so much so that I can reorient myself towards a new purpose, towards a new meaning for my life.

My daily premise is to move forward as a person with a positive attitude, who adds wellbeing to herself and to those around me, who spreads joy, peace, hope and wellbeing every day, because the path is from the inside out.

I am currently doing community work for people going through grief of any kind, I give motivational talks to recharge positive energy, which inspires me to support, encourage, transmit confidence and most importantly to bring out the best in me.

Just as stress produces the release of "Cortisol" responsible for my anxiety symptoms, I seek to feel good in order to release "Oxytocin" responsible for the love that brings about my well-being and fulfillment.

I feel much better, stronger to be able to help my family, loved ones and people who are grieving the loss of Lilly.

I have learned to surround myself with people who add to me, contribute and help me to reach my personal achievements that benefit my physical and mental health; I tell you that this is not easy, it is one day at a time.

To be positive is to be optimistic, even in difficult circumstances or moments.

I surround myself with people who are with me in good times and bad, with the ability to solve problems.

I focus on solving the problems, what is hurting me, the situation, the grief and I do NOT do it from the complaint, the lament, the sadness.

I inspire and encourage myself to be a better person, transparent, honest, sincere, loyal, respectful, in this way everything flows better and faster.

I return as the reflection in the mirror, the joy to live in difficult moments, that attitude makes me feel good about myself and believe in me.

I do not compare myself to the pain, joy or success of others, nor do I dwell on the longing for what once was.

I rejoice in the achievements of others in my personal growth and development group, the response I receive from them is that they respect me as I am and when they criticize me they do it in a constructive way; I accept it with the best disposition.

How difficult it is to get friendships that always give you a positive plus, this would be a great blessing for my life and thus discard the toxic ones that point at you, judge you even in your worst moments, more easily. Loose and trusting.

And on those days, when the black cloud settles over me and I feel I find no solution to my problems, I see the future very negative and experience hopelessness, I look for help, I ask for it if necessary. Hopelessness never lasts forever.

Hope is one of the most relevant personal resources for my well-being, success and personal growth. It makes me stronger during the storm.