It sounds to me to force the will and good... forced will is less voluntary... Beyond the pun, whenever this concept appears in the form of self-demand, it is as if the voices of parents, teachers, coaches appeared who constantly accused someone of their inability to self-regulate.
A long-term project (such as raising, emigrating, having a healthy life, marriage...) is not sustained by "willpower". It sustains (among other things) with a fluid effort with you and those around you…
Maybe we can think twice before saying “I lack willpower". It is a mixture between a tantrum and a deep unconsciousness with what things really mean to me and our environment.
Almost all of us tend to force intention, desires, and so we continue to abuse the mind, body and spirit these will take their toll with traumas created by pushing the willpower by rebellion, sustained exhaustion and a feeling of emptiness.
It feels like trying to fit a cube into a circle. Are you ready to stop throwing this tantrum and sacrificed inconsistency already?
On the other hand, it is necessary that the effort is different when it is directed towards something, recognizing that this “something” does not exist yet and therefore needs attention to present experiences (body and intuition) as much as consulting the mind. In effort, your mind accepts uncertainty, you learn, and you can get everything you need here and now (not “over there" in the future “when that will be").
Nowadays, I feel alive because I prefer the effort of investing energy in an intelligent way "ability", to create changes of rhythm, growing in the process and adapting to the changes, than forcing my humanity and throwing away my energy inefficiently and acting in a crazy obsessive way and with mental rigidity towards my goals, my goals.
When you make an effort, you work with yourself and your ecosystem and not against it, remember that it is your footprint that you deliver, your image, your personal brand. Then... are you sure you lack willpower? When was the last time you asked yourself this question? To be aware that everything we set out to do must be done intentionally. The intention to do the best possible, and not only with willpower.If you don't, your performance will speak for you. It is useless to look for guilty or to avoid responsibility.
Every time I have tried to force my will, I have felt terrible and exhausted.
As if he were fighting against me. That's what I experienced when I came to my job after the pandemic and I tried to fit in by doing what others recommended me to do to feel integrated, but they weren't in line with what I wanted.
We have to get down to work to make ourselves responsible for our decisions.
I reflect on this, and it is that sometimes we spend too much time letting everything materialize in the spontaneous force of will with indecision that ultimately leave us in the same place or perhaps even more serious in limbo, we must focus to define our goal, work and the possible effort to achieve it.
I learned from this experience, that it was only when I gave myself permission to look for what I wanted to do that the answers came. Now I'm trying hard at that way...no it's always easy but as almost always I said... "This way one feels flowing in mindfulness, spirituality, hope, effort, and health."
The thorns are always in the way, but we always have the opportunity to do it differently again!!!
Today I don't waste time on the "I don't know what to do" Clarity is of my own creation, what matters is how I am preparing myself mentally and physically, to give my best, every day…
In the cover image, with effort and care, this rose in my backyard grows at ease, happy, fulfilling its dreams as it reaches its peak, is on the right path, continues in that direction strengthening and does not stay stagnant thanks to this, it follows been a rose, and I can appreciate it in my hands.
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