Love is a four-letter word that signifies a variety of meanings depending on the person's point of view. For you, what is love? Is it in a way that awaits reciprocal effort? Or that is freely given?
Love is sometimes misinterpreted as a necessity we seek from other beings. A precious possession somehow that is too hard to find and too rare to have for those lost in faith in love. But we always forget how the concept of love started. That love was freely given by our parents, which they fostered to make us feel loved and live our lives. To be able to manage love, we must first love ourselves. It is easy to say that we love ourselves. But how can we love ourselves if we keep finding it in other beings?
Saying we love ourselves and proclaiming it on our social media platforms is not enough to awaken the love we need in life. Instead, we need to be true to ourselves and accept who we are, including our flaws and shortcomings. Through that, it will be a stepping stone in cultivating love in our lives. The process may not be easy considering that external opinions about us are present, but we must strive to go on and do what we have forgotten, which is giving love to ourselves. We need to focus on our strengths and accept the things we cannot have and cannot do yet because all of us have a different timelines in life. We must be contented with what we have at the moment, accept who we are, and cultivate our lackings for the betterment of our lives without causing trouble to others. Through that love in us, we will be open-eyed, and we will realize that the love we have is enough to make us keep going and enjoy the moments we share with our loved ones. We will not be shaken by derogatory opinions, because the love we have, has a strong foundation that keeps us going.
By the moment we have a love for ourselves, it will be a satisfying life. And if there is a chance that love comes to us it is for us to decide, not for others to dictate and meddle. Only we know what our heart desires and our mind perceives. For you, what is your heart truly desire? Does the love you choose will bring peace and happiness in your life?
Additionally, love is not a fantasy but an irony of it. It has two extremes that we need to balance as ideal as we want it to be but reality will strike us that it will not go as we want it to be. We should not be dismayed because that is what we call life. Not always a bed of roses or as a tyrant in David's inferno but a reality in life, and we need to accept it. Because we are alive and capable of love, live the direction of life we have, and learn from our mistakes.
It is the beauty of our life that we are capable of making decisions and being able to learn from those. Though there will be disappointing moments in our judgments, those will guide our future endeavors. The bad moments will just be part of our story as we go on with our lives, the important thing is we have learned that we carry as we grow older and live the life we want for ourselves and for the people we value in life.
Positively love our life, no matter how simple it is, and keep learning!
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I know life will not be an easy road to take as we age, but whatever path you decide to carry on, always remember your purpose it will be your guide in making your journey in life fruitful. Amor fati!
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