The majority of women who reach the age of 40 do not possess the physical stamina and energy that we did when we were younger. This is true regardless of how well we take care of ourselves.
Therefore, it is important to keep track of the energy that is available to prevent it from being used for activities that are not necessary. There aren't any pressing obligations if it is possible.
When you turn 40, the thing you should try to do is..
○ Remove unnecessary people and things from life; don't waste energy thinking about and wallowing in unnecessary stress.
○ You can pick and choose friends who are available, who don't cause stress, and who don't drain our energy to take care of our mental health and feelings.
○ Things around the house that aren't being used can be thrown away, sold, or donated, but doing so will require us to think about it, clear space, etc.Just keep the items that make us feel good since the more space there is, the less we think about it. Like me, you probably sell or donate your used clothing and empty plastic containers, but I keep my book collection to improve my mood every day.
We don't have to keep attempting to change those around us. I don't have the energy to worry about other people because I'm a single mother who only has to worry about her children. Let it be if we've tried to change them before the age of 40 but it hasn't changed after years of trying.Just accept them for who they are. You don't need to experience tension and headaches because of things we are unable to change.
When you reach the age of 40, you need to take responsibility for your mental and physical well-being and think more independently about the world and the hereafter. At this age, we can attempt to fit the things that are important to us into our daily or weekly schedules. Such as :
Exercise 30 min a day.
Hobby 30 min a day.
Extra belief practice 1 hour 30 minutes a day (depends on your religion) as for me, as a Muslim (Quran, lectures, circumcision prayers, zikir).
Relationship with a partner (for those who have a partner) 1 hour (date, shopping, walking, chatting).
Relationship with children, always ask about their day or just anything and monitor what they are doing.
Explore new things/skills for 30 min (learn a language, try new recipes, others).
Relationship with mother/father who is far away (if they are still available) 30 min (call to say hello, video call, texting).
We can do it now or everything that we want, even if we didn't have the time to do it before.
Not all of your obligations must be left behind. We must actually take action. We can just discard the useless things at this time.
Even exploring social media is becoming like heroin; it has repercussions, thus mental health needs to be looked after even more. Limit your time on social media since news weariness is real.
So, if you are currently 37 or 38, you can gradually get ready to turn 40. You can start organising the home a little bit, delegate some housekeeping duties to the kids, arrange a light exercise schedule, look into some enjoyable hobbies, and start interacting with the kids. Everything can be done in little steps at first.
When we reach the age of 40 and our bodies begin to age, let there be a change that is not particularly obvious because you have been ready and alert before it.
If I remember correctly, I began to get grey hair at the age of 41. I feel... yes, finally...!!! Yes, the signs have arrived when I see the grey hair. The body begins to ache a little. Putting on weight is simple. I might be a little sad because it feels like it's happening so quickly emotionally. I didn't have any advice to help me prepare for my 40s while I was in the age of 30's, so when I experience it and understand it, I'll share it if it can help anyone.
My daily routine is slowly being changed. I now chose activities that are more flexible for me and that also include other people. I'm forced to take part in things that are flexible for other people but inflexible for me because I have to do them. However, I feel strong enough to take on the obligations so that it will become easier in the future. If I still do the work or workload I used to do for the time being, I can't afford to do it anymore.
I'm sharing my experience because I believe it's preferable to wait till you're under 40; there are people who understand the true hardships of that age. Everybody has a different pair of shoes. You can carry it out if it's advantageous.
May God see our attempts to be a thankful servant and keep them in mind. Hugs to all mothers and women who will reach the age of 40. If you are 40 and above, you actually did well. You managed to survive and enter the maturing age full of wisdom.
My recommendation for those in their 30s is to just be ready to take good care of both your physical and emotional health. Do not assume that being healthy is your passport to a long life. Your longevity is not guaranteed by your age or health.
There is no assurance that you will live to be 40, regardless of how youthful or healthy you are. There is no guarantee that they will live to be 50 or older, just like those in their 40s.
But being prepared is the key message of my piece of writing this time. Since that DEATH is inevitable. And be grateful if we have passed the 40-year mark. Because it marks the beginning of all physical and psychological preparatory changes as well as the PHASE of all diseases.
With love from Me, the 44 year old mom.
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