When I was growing up candles were very common in every home in Africa this was because power was not always guaranteed so people went for cheaper options just to light up their homes, the options they normally went with candles because it was very cheap and even the poorest people than can afford it. We grew up with a lot of candles in our home and when my younger ones played with candles my mother told me not to stop them from playing with them even though she knew that it is dangerous for children to play with candles. I realize that Immediately after the candle burns their hand they stop playing with it and even if you ask them to touch it next time they will refuse.
Children love playing a lot and they love going back to things that excite them. They keep a good memory of those things that are exciting and also the things that don’t excite them, they keep memory of things that hurt them and make sure not to go back to them. My mother noticed so he allowed them to learn from experience, no matter how small the child is immediately after he or she is hurt by the candle they stop playing with it. Sometimes they will feel like touching it just because of our beautiful it can be, but because of their experience with it, they stay away from it and never do that again but doesn’t only apply to children. It also applies to us as adults.
Make it satisfying
As an adult, our brain is programmed in such a way that we should go back to things that guarantee good rewards, just like children both our own is not obvious and we don’t normally use this to our advantage when we are trying to create a habit and this is why it is normal for a human being to stop whatsoever they don’t put their mind in, immediately we convinced ourselves that what we are doing is not satisfying or it is no rewarding no matter how easy the things might be we will struggle at it because our brain is built that way. It is easy to go for things that are satisfying and not go for things that are not rewarding. When we are creating a habit, it is important to note that we must build it in such a way that it is satisfying.
You can build a satisfying habit by getting your mind right and how you do that is not focused on the result, focusing on the result steals away your joy and when you are not getting your desired result quickly It messes up your mind and makes you think that what you are doing It’s not rewarding. Another way to be a satisfying habit is to take it slow and a good example of that is going to the gym if you rush it, you might become injured and that might change your mind in the process because our brain tends to go for things that are rewarding and not things that hurt us. If any habit we are trying to build is not satisfying It will be hard for us to be always motivated to do it and almost impossible for us to get our desired results.
Building a satisfying habit starts from our mind and anything in life we want to do consistently must be things that may not be easy, but we must do it in a way that satisfies us so that we will be motivated to do it next time and not complain. We must always remember that we are likely not to go back to things that don’t reward us It is in our nature.
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