I admire givers so much because I am one myself, I always have a problem with selfish people, and I believe the world would be a better place if we all think about one another and give as much as we can, but while I go about life trying in my own capacity to provide as much help as I can to everyone I can provide it to, I have learned the difficult lesson of knowing that, there has to be a barrier and limit to everything I do and even to my act of giving.
One thing is sure, even if I had to learn it the hard way, the ability to provide solutions to every existing problem does not lie in my hands, I can only do what is within my capacity and not beyond that, it is a manner of financial discipline to be able to decipher when you are going overboard with your giving habit.
Those moments when we trample upon our own boundaries of giving and we go overboard with giving are often a sign of codependency, at this point we are extremely particular about pleasing others more than our values and believes. We put in so much in order to receive praises and attention from others more than we do from a place of comfort. Sometimes, we over-give because we want people to see us as being smart and very strong.
For the sake of clarity, let me give an example of the difference between a generous giver and an over-giver. You realize during break time at the office, that there is a certain staff who always sits back, you confront the staff and he was able to open up about the heavy weight of family responsibility on his shoulders, so he tries to skip launch every day in order to meet up with his financial goal, then you decide to buy him launch on a daily basis. Now that is a great act of generosity but on the other hand, if you have a large workload and lots of files to deliver within a deadline of two days, then you notice a moody college who is complaining about the workload and you decide to take off some of the workloads and then add it to your simply because you are trying to be nice, now that is a pure act of an over-giver.
Overgiving isn't healthy for the following reasons;
- It brings lack.
- You will break down at the end of the day.
- People take you for granted.
- It subjects you to mockery, as people begin to take you for granted.
You need to think about yourself and the comfort of close relatives before going overboard with your giving habits, there are fathers who have starving children at home but are philanthropists to other children outside the home, that is not particularly healthy and it I something to be worked upon if you have the habit already. Proper giving should be from a place of generosity and not because you are persuaded to give or give based on the fact that, you are trying to show smart or that, you are capable in the presence of other people. Thanks for your time, hope you found the post worthwhile, have a great week.