It always seems like a Herculean task to overcome challenges, especially when these events happen at the point you least expect them to. You become overwhelmed in so short a time you begin to question your sanity. Everything gets blurry, you think the wrong thoughts, your mind runs through a plethora of the worse things that could happen, and man, do you wish it just all ends and how easy it would be at that point to let go and let the tide carry you with the storm.
I lost my Dad a month into graduation from Uni, I hadn't even finished writing my final project. Omooo, I could not even think let alone respond to the situation. I was mostly angry though because I was broke( I had zero money to my name).I had just used the last of my project money to clear his hospital bills and get him home. Plus, I was always missing classes because I had to do extra work to be able to eat properly and send some money home, and now Pops died.
I was still on my bed when I got the news, and home was in another state. I got up, didn't have a bath and headed into the unknown ( home in this case). Everything from on there was just vibes and In Sha Allah ( Nigerian folks would understand the phrase more).
Point I'm tryna make is, sometimes we're at the lowest points of our life, and everything is going to look like life has conspired against us. Here are some of the things that helped me get through
- I cried... As absurd as it sounds, it helped me relieve some of the pressure and eased my mind. I had a clear mind to start thinking afresh after every short-lived episode of heartfelt weeping
- I prayed.... Oh yes, I'm a firm believer of the power of God and how much of it is available to help in times of need. I prayed through it all, days and nights. When it got easy a bit, I prayed, and I prayed. How much of God's power is available is always a reassuring beacon of hope
- I got up.... Not in the sense that I was sleeping, but I understood that I now have a responsibility to provide for my family. Not the way I would have had it,but, hey, I wouldn't have it any other way. And yes, I'm still not quite where I want to be financially, but we've been able to get by and it can only get better from here on.
In the time my Pa passed on, I was able to put my younger sister through University, and yes, I have not had any paying job since graduation ( and yes, if you have a job opening for me, I'd so much love that, thank you).
I had the support of a community of friends who was there through it all(welcome baby) and the amazing
girlfriend and others who helped me go by
What you should get is, it may get rough, but keep your head high. It is only going to be for a while. And while you think the night is going to be super long, Dawn is already here...
Love and light, Oritsedene
P.S I should probably make this a series. It may help someone who's going through a hard patch right now
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