Marrying to a man is actually a deep thing. Untreated inferiority complex can actually affect someone in marriage if care is not taken. Low self-esteem has really destroyed a lot of men when it comes to marriage and it has left an indelible mark.
Some of these men don't just feel small, they see themselves as always small. So small that anybody that is even within their league, they see themselves as smaller than the person. Men with inferiority complex often cope by criticizing and belittling their partners when so they feel less threatened.
They become easily superstitious and jealous. They want to control and they read betrayer easily and they see it as something that is normal. They easily blame everyone else for their unhappiness instead of taking responsibilities.
Low self-esteem has a way of making you see less of what life is all about. In marriage, where you share your life, space and identity, this is not a flaw. It becomes the emotional climate that blankets the marriage total****
Reasons
ReasonsYouCan'tFixIt
There are some reasons why you can't fix a low self-esteem man who has entered marriage. Many women believe that if they love him enough, humble themselves enough or package their success well enough, they might actually feel secure but that is not the case and it has shown that that's not the case. A deep inferiority complex is an internal belief system, not a misunderstanding that you can explain away.
There are also some reasons why you cannot fix it. Like I'm saying, self-image is built on comparison so your growth feels like an attack to him instead of inspiration. On a normal day in a marriage, when someone is actually wealthy than another person, they are supposed to see it as something complimentary, not supposed to be a tug of war.
Any feedback sounds like criticism which only deepens his shame and defensiveness. Then validation is into a bottomless pit. The more you give, the more he needs it.
Somebody needs to validate who he is and what he has done. Therapy, introspection and genuine desire to change can really help such a man but those who have been in this decision over a long period of time, there is a lot that needs to be done. For a woman, it erodes the human of the ability to be herself.
Immediately you mention your friend, it becomes a shadow of what he is expecting. There are so many friends that have become a shadow of themselves because of these kinds of things. It has cost them their life and their health and their mental sanity.
The tragedy is that the very thing that has made many of these women attractive to these men has been driven away. Low self-esteem has belittled the beauty, the love, compassion and the emotion, the drive, the confidence and the light of the marriage has been blanketed out. There is no limit to many of all these things.
Before marriage, a man should pay attention, even a woman should pay attention to how he handles sex and how he reacts. When no is being said to him, there are some men that can't take responsibilities without collapsing into self-pity or exploding in blame. Probability to be in this kind of marriage is high because there are so many men who don't have anything at all but they are ready to marry the richest woman in town.