My advice? Enjoy."
I really like when these topics are thrown as a curve ball into the engagement activities. Sex is the ritual of our secret order. Borges described it in a really weird manner in a story that doesn't help start to tell my take on the issue of lighting during the deed. So, let's get to it.
There are not many things things to say regarding one or the other. Having lights on is an interesting experience, but it requires some level of trust and confidence. Many people are ashamed of their bodies. Sex is a lot about vulnerability. And regarding that, I can see why some people shy away from having it in plain daylight or with their lights on. But I would add to this the fact that it is with lights on that you can get a look at what you're going to eat. Yes, not only to get some eye candy, but also to check out if your partner at the moment has any kind of lesion that could be linked STDs.
Lights off is more of an intimate setting. Lovers meeting at dark is a really common trope. It comes from the fact that people tended to wait until dark to do it. That is unless they are really horny all the time. Having no lights makes you rely on your other sense, touch, smell and taste for all the things you have to do. And it is a great thing since while your vision is impaired, your other senses are boosted slightly. So it is a marvel to have time to feel the texture of the skin, smell your partner, and of course, give them some smooches and licks. The other big thing is hearing. Listening to the music of sex in the dark has a different feel to it. Yes, you can't watch the reactions, but the movements of the body and the sound of the voice and the pace of breathing is hint enough to know whether your on the right track or not.
If I had to choose, I'd go with a combination of both. I had my fair share of lights on and lights off. They are good and all. However, in a dimmed-light setting things get more interested. You can't always make out everything that is in front of you, but you can guess the expression of your partner by how their muscles move. And dim light feels way more intimate since the movements can be seen as well as felt. So, you end up mixing some features of both lights on and off. They balance each other out to get an interesting experience.
I gotta say few things feel better than staring at the eyes of your partner in the deed while panting just to be met with the same kind of look and then a smile. Then, you keep at it and enjoy the rest of the act. And just maybe more than a few rounds.
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