My short answer to the topic is "be my guest". But that wouldn't be so thoughtful of myself. So let's get to the general sense of how people become fond of me or do not.
I was never popular during my school years. If there something I remember dearly about those days is the actual end. It was not like I struggled at school. Every problem met had a solution and I could bring myself to have the grades and learn the stuff I needed. Moving on out of the stuff at school, I started to notice something. People liked me.
And I think the whole point of the thing was that I was myself. I spent years learning things and cultivating myself in areas of knowledge and how to listen to others. And I think that's what makes the whole difference. There's also the fact that good memory is at the order of the day. So, chances are if you have a conversation with me you might not have to recall many of the things you said. I'd do it for you.
There's a recent anecdote. During my reading, a guy stood up to say something. It wasn't related at all to comments or had anything to do with my presentation. He just wanted to be listened. He sang an interesting song. And I gave him the spotlight. Just because I know being ignored feels awful. And I go through life helping people take a step forward. I listen to them. I care about what they say. There are other things in the mix. But those are some of the ideas that come to mind.
It is weird to try to get to the idea of why people like me. Maybe it is because I don't around expecting them to do it. There are people who can't stand me. I don't blame them. Then again, if they don't like me one bit, I'd give them more reason to not do it.
So, it must be a thing about being myself and not having second thoughts on the details about being loved or hated. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter. Some people are important for life; others, not. And this varies way to much to stay up late thinking about how it works. The only thing you can do is not taking for granted the connections you have made so far.
Or maybe there's something to gain out from being liked by everyone. I believe that is too much trouble for what it is worth. At the end of the day, you'd need to make too many concessions in order to be a golden coin (that's a Spanish calque). And you'll must likely end up being like a golden-coated coin, just having a layer for show, but nothing of worth inside your shell.
Maybe people just like me because I make good cookies and damn good cakes.
I wouldn't complain. Cooking is one of the best things one can learn to do.
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