Week #253/ Victim me? no, not at all

When one has come across people, who live in a constant complaint, with a victim plan, resulting in many either joining the complaint or walking away from it. I am of the second group. At one point in my life I sometimes complained, for any situation, like any human being, but when I saw so many complaints around me I stopped, because I did not want to be seen as a victim, therefore, with those looks full of pity, I do not tolerate them; because it causes me a strange feeling, as of vulnerability, instability, fragility and I do not like to feel that way, that is definitive.

So in my mind, the role of victim does not go with me, because I am one of those who like to face their situations regardless of what they are or how difficult they may be, I am clear that I do not know them all, that now is when I must continue learning things, but I prefer to try all my options before falling into the role of victim. Although there are situations in which we can fall into that role, but I try not to do it on my own, such as unexpected issues, such as a robbery, which is something that no one seeks to happen to them.

On the other hand, I hate in some people, that role of victim, which apparently fascinates them, for anything, looking for other people to sympathize with their “situation” and seem to be happy, when other people look at them with pity, becoming the center of attention and even people come to comfort them or try to help them, often taking advantage of this help, taking advantage of which in many cases they do not really need. This type of character must know very well how to unmask them and get away from them, because they are toxic people for their own environment.

So for this and for all that this situation of victim makes me feel, I try as far as possible, if it really touches me, for life situations, to go through that role, I try to move forward, to face my responsibilities, not to stay in the main characteristic of a victim, which is the complaint and move rather to the gratitude. Because to a grateful person all doors open and all things are given to him/her well.

Perhaps my way of thinking has to do with the environment in which I was related since I was a child and that is why the word victim in my mind is very well specified and is not one of the things I like to be, much less tolerate someone with that mentality. So ultimately, this condition is not part of my personality; on the contrary, I want to be remembered as someone who fought in life, for what she wanted, that if she fell down she got up again and moved forward no matter what she had to face, that instead of being worthy of pity, I am worthy of pride and affection for those who know me. So it is that I am a victim, not that it goes.

This is my participation in Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 253, cheers!