It's another meaningful and interesting topic that Sir Galenkp provided for this #weekend-engagement. I am supposed to share my weekend experience about our exhausting yet fulfilling whole-day trip from North to South of Cebu (approx 7-8 hours travel time) but when I read the topics this weekend, I am interested in the particular topic which I think is "more" serious and substantial that needs to be shared even though it's a little sensitive for men, especially husbands. By this I mean - the husband doing the household chores "full time".
For this weekend's writing prompt, I'm choosing Topic # 2 which is,
For the women...Do you have to push your partner into chores and housework? Explain and tell us any funny stories or methods you've used to get that partner of yours working! (Sex usually works well I guess.) Tell us what chores you'd rather they did and didn't do, and the reasons.
As I mentioned earlier, I think this topic can be a sensitive subject to men or everyone because of the prevailing gender stereotypes and traditional roles that most of us grow with. And I think this is the reason why the words "push" and " methods used to get that partner of yours working" are used when it comes to "men doing the household chores" for this writing prompt. Hehe.
Almost all of us are aware that these gender roles have often pigeonholed men into specific roles as providers and not as a doer of household chores or domestic tasks. I even have this orientation before I got into marriage and even elder married couples somehow conditioned my mind that once I get married I need to serve my husband, cook for him, wash clothes, clean the house, and do all the household chores there are.
But believe me when I say, that I am fortunate and blessed when my partner does all the household chores for almost the first two years of marriage. From cooking food, doing the laundry (including my undies, yes), washing dishes, cleaning the kitchen and the house, buying groceries, everything of it!
All husbands reacted: Seriously!
While the wives said: Oh! you're lucky!
[ Insert my big big smile here! ]😁
This topic made me miss my husband and reminded me of how lucky I am to be pampered with so much care (every wife's dream). This time I'm sharing with you a bit of our activities under our roof. Hope you can learn from this especially the tactics I used. Haha. Kidding aside.
For the women...Do you have to push your partner into chores and housework?
I got married last 2020 and gave birth in 2021. The nature of my job as a Secondary Teacher at a Public School requires me to spend 8 hours a day in school from Mondays to Fridays plus the allowance time for my preparation and travel time going back and forth to the school. On some weekends, we are also required to report to school if there are School evaluations or upcoming big events.
My husband sees all of this and automatically sets aside his plan to go back to work. Too much to say, he served me and my daughter like a queen and a princess. He wakes up very early in the morning to prepare breakfast, clean the dishes afterward, wash our clothes, take care of our daughter when I go to work, and clean the house, water the plants, he even gives me time to hike early in the morning while he was busy preparing everything. He creates a comfortable and organized home environment for our little family.
He told me that he enjoyed doing it and he is happy doing it for us. At first, I thought, I need to convince him to do these tasks while we are still building our own. It might be very convenient for us (financially) if he goes back to work and we will hire a house helper, but I was happy that he choose to do this for us and shower all his love and care for us. We had more time to bond and be with each other because I know that one day he needs to get back to work for our future plans.
Explain and tell us any funny stories or methods you've used to get that partner of yours working!
I know that he gets tired too, and sometimes feels ashamed. He even self-pitied sometimes and uttered words like "I should be the one providing for the family". I greatly understand how he feels and sometimes degrades himself every time he compared himself to other husbands.
So what I did was, I was very vocal about my appreciation for him and how grateful and blessed I and my daughter for him. I also gave him random hugs and kisses while he was doing the chores. A back hug is his favorite! Ssshhh! Do you think this is a method? Naaah, That's my appreciation and acknowledgment for his love and I think turns into our love language.
But girls, if you want your partner to do the household chores for you, maybe you can apply these and improvise it a little more. What do you think?😉
(Sex usually works well I guess.)
[ I leave my big big smile here. ]
Thanks sir G for this interesting #weekendengagemet topic. This made me appreciate my husband and miss him even more. I'll be sending this link to him (he now works abroad) to remind him how grateful and feel loved I am and my daughter because of him.
Thank you for reading guys. Have a beautiful week ahead! I wish you all safe and well always!
Don't forget to smile often! 🤗😘😉
All photos are taken by my husband. I requested these photos of him last night so that I can include them on my blog. He supports me 100% on my Hive Journey.