Is this something you can afford?

Our community admin once again shared some prompts to have interesting topics here during the weekend. For the first time I dare to participate on this iniciative, because there was something that really caught my attention...

" -Have you ever paid for sex or would you ever pay for sex? Explain in each case..."

I got surprised when I read this. A little scandalous? Maybe, but then I remembered all the transparence that Hive provides and I got interested on making a post about this.

Sex is something I've been following closely these last months... I lost my virginity a few weeks after my eighteeenth birthday, on May It was something I decided I wanted to do. Since I was younger I got so many opportunities to have sex for the first time... and I missed them all! Just because I felt like it wasn't the right time, until it was.

So, when I was younger paying to have sex wasn't an option at all. Not my interest at all. Besides, I didn't have money and I wasn't going to ask my parents to give me money for doing it 😂.

Also I had the mentality that in order to have sex you first needed to build a strong connection with the other person so that you feel safe and you can trust. This mentality projected over the people around me so many expectations that they weren't able to fulfill...

The thing is, when I started to have sex with someone different for the first time I realized that it wasn't necessary to have a relationship at all. Not that I would leave with a person I met five minutes ago. I just discovered that when you are starting to meet someone new, if you are honest from the very beginning you can establish enough confidence with that partner. At the beginning you might not feel too sure about it, but with time inhibition fades away (or at leasg that was the way it happened to me. Plus, I realized that there is so much people to get to know out there to get stuck with someone that isn't going to give you peace. From that moment on I learned to value opportunities with other human beings.

This Saturday I got home from a Summer Camp. It was an amazing 7-days experience where I did get to have sex a few times. I didn't even expect doing so, it just happened. Turns out that (staying humble) I know I am a handsome young man, and it's easy for me to start a conversation with strangers. On the other hand, as I said, right now I'm not looking for sex, so I just wait until the opportunity comes and then I decide if it is worthy or not.

So, now that I got a certain experience on the whole sex thing, I think that I would never pay to have sex, because I think I don't need it. For me sex is something to be enjoyed, not a work to get rid of.

I hope you liked this post. I was as honest as possible, and I would love to get to know other perspectives about this topic. Let's keep engaging!

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