1 Communication:
It is clear that no relationship is perfect and there will be good days and bad days, but the main thing, the backbone of a good relationship is communication, we all know that, but we all fail at it. when we get together in a relationship we take many things for granted, especially us women. we believe that our partner should know what we like and what we don't and we fail in that aspect. we are all adults and the best thing is to clearly explain our desires and needs.
Today's relationships are not very healthy, one party always wants to be in control so as not to be seen as weak in front of their environment, they give more priority to what they will say. And the truth is that in a relationship it is not only enough to accept our differences, we must accept them and find common ground instead of living a power struggle. it is not about who wins or is more right, but to connect and make the relationship more solid. we are polar opposites, men are simpler, we are somewhat complicated, but communication can never fail, let alone spend days without talking, otherwise, the relationship will be chaos.
2 quality times:
When I talk about quality time, I don't just mean intimacy, I don't just mean going out, having dinner or going for a walk in the mountains or walking on the beach and traveling with our partner. I mean going beyond that and making the effort, getting to know our partner better, talking about their fears, their tastes, their experiences, their dreams, their failures, even their fantasies. there are couples who have been living together for years and don't even know what their favorite color is, their favorite music, what their favorite dessert is. it may seem stupid, but it is very sad to be with a person for so many years and not know such important things about their partner.
3 respect:
In a relationship there can be many problems, there can be many discrepancies, but what can never be allowed is the verbal attack and less physical, that would already be a violent and toxic relationship and less we can pretend that the other person change some of their habits or behaviors that built from their Nines or learned to do some things different from how we do. This was very difficult for me to understand because before I wanted to change many things about my partner, but with time I understood that I was the one who was wrong, that it is his essence, his way of being, he should not change for me or for anyone, a person only changes because he wants to change himself.
4 Confidence:
Trust is everything in a relationship, that's why if trust is broken, everything is in doubt and not because you want it to be, but because that uncertainty remains in your head. I believe in second chances, but not in the mistakes of infidelity, they are just an excuse to justify themselves. A mistake is a surprise, not premeditated. Now it is fashionable to blame you and make you feel bad for not trusting those who defrauded you. forgiveness is one thing and trust is another, they are actions of loyalty sustained over time. as there are people who can give a second chance, others not, the fact of forgiving any disloyalty does not mean that I have the confidence to continue with that person.
5 independence:
To depend totally on a partner both emotionally and financially is to delegate part of my life. From love to obsession there is a very thin line and that turns us into slaves of the other person. A healthy relationship should be built from freedom, each having their own goals and projects, sharing things in common that strengthen the relationship, but also giving each other time to develop and grow individually..
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