Women vs. Desire

Have a nice Saturday everyone!, this morning I have reflected and even read about one of the options Desire, this term is directly related to wanting, having or possessing. Perhaps a feeling that drives you to achieve certain goals. Applicable in various aspects of life.

The desire is felt by men and women alike, but there is a particular desire that is not allowed to women in most cases and is: Sexual desire.

Women are educated from an early age in such a way that they must restrict and take care of these cravings and on her falls all the responsibility for what happens, as an example of the popular saying:

The man proposes and the woman disposes.

The man has full freedom to give free rein to his desires and instincts while the woman must be alert and not allow such an approach (or at least that is what they ask you to do), and whatever happens is because the woman allowed it.

If the woman gives in to her instincts, a feeling of guilt immediately sets in, which is hidden behind so many NOs. The woman cannot, should not.

In fact, even in some cultures the fact that a woman desires physical contact and nothing else is frowned upon, a woman cannot enjoy her sexuality, that is why we find more and more women who only have intimacy if they are in love, while the man's intentions are merely to satisfy a biological need.

Thus, as organisms our bodies contain hormones that activate these desires, thus ensuring the survival of our species, many consider it nature's trap.

As women, we are always encouraged to abstain and to suppress these needs, which are still present because they are biological. Of course, I especially refer to single women.

And these restrictions increase if you are a single Christian woman, since any sexual desire is sinful, even to arouse sexual desire in another person. Sexual relations are only allowed between married people and masturbation is forbidden in both cases.

To let oneself be carried away by sexual desires is to commit a grave sin, not to mention women married by the Church, they can not have any relationship because it commits adultery and also bears the guilt that the man (husband) is forced to commit adultery in turn.

This culture of the woman keeping to herself as much as possible is also the cause of the man seeing us as a trophy that he will not rest in pursuing until he obtains it and once obtained (the woman is in love at this point) the man leaves and she is devastated.

I have also heard friends say that women put themselves up too high as if it is a big deal when they are worth too.

And yes more value is placed on a woman's virtue than a man's, and a man should respect and value his body as well.

There is a marked difference between having sex and making love, and personally there is nothing better than making love, than being able to enjoy your desires with that person.

But...

Should these desires that are natural be silenced, suppressed just because they do not meet the standards or norms established within the Christian community?

You can guess the thougts in which I found myself as a divorced woman raised in a Christian home, but who still has a heart that feels and suffers.

I am pretty, I am a good woman whose heart wants to feel the fire of love again.