Awkward conversations ... || Week:164

Hi Galen, I think I'd rather not lie, it doesn't hurt anyone.

While blindly believing in everything they tell us makes us easy prey of liars, scammers. Much more so if we also have the face of the unwary and attitude of victims.

No extreme is good. Maintaining the balance is not easy, but it should be the north, so as not to hurt us, or harm us.

I've lived that story many times, with family, friends in different ambits.

I think that lying is part of our daily life; sometimes we use it to avoid some reproach or negative consequence when we forget something, for example. This is normal when it is sporadic.

But when lying is part of everyday life, there is a potential pathological mythomaniac. As it happened to me with this anecdote with a person "neighbor" in my community, she is a woman in her thirties. She is from another South American country, and she has 15 years in my country and two children.

While attending a condo meeting, we chatted a bit.I listened to her with a lot of respect and also with attention. She was giving me advice from her worldview and with generosity. His formula is almost infallible, truth or lie, everyone has their unequivocal side in what they think and say.

The thing is, I don't want that.

I'm not going to get into what I want, want, need to listen to (which makes for pleasant conversations). I'm going to enter that person who comes into your life and suddenly tells you what you "should" do from his truth or lie, in his lifestyle.

After that first meeting with the neighbor, there were others until my suspicions were confirmed, I was in front of a person who has lying as a way of life, for her truth, she does it almost all the time; sometimes she is conscious and others she does it unconsciously and without a need to obtain or avoid something.

This neighbor who feels neither guilt nor empathy and usually thinks that her lies do not hurt or harm anyone. The worst thing is that when she felt discovered, she became defensive and diverted the conversation.

Sometimes even the limits are not enough. We have to put distance.

The most difficult thing about this type of situation is when the liar is in your family, where you can't completely get away, but if you have to place firm boundaries that allow us not to fall into his game, to somehow protect ourselves from the years that may cause us.

This story served as a trigger for a pleasant conversation with my husband, and also to make aware again the risks of taking one of the two possible paths. Not one better or worse, but different... to be responsible and honest always. For that, we must strengthen our self-esteem every day and surround ourselves with people who add optimism to our lives.

Life is an instant to waste time pretending, sometimes a painful truth is better than a useful lie. Has it happened to you?.