"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit."- - Peter Ustinov.
I am one of the people who think that we don't have to wait for something bad to happen to us to get into consciousness and make a change. Taking care of ourselves should be a natural habit.
I believe that having good habits and that I take disciplined action for my self-care also allows me to dose the motivation so that it lasts and set limits so as not to neglect other areas of my life, such as love, for example.
Interesting because it is a central theme of Christianity: forgiveness. I have been applying it for a long time. True forgiveness forgets the offense... the neglect... is a transformation that helps the forgiven. It does not make you big or small, but simply human and imperfect.
You look...express what is in your soul. And what you value and respect, you see that in yourself, and you value and respect it. That's my feeling.
I apply it. In a special case and I pray a lot. But there are exceptional cases, such as when it comes to assaults that go beyond the limits. Continuous verbal abuse, beatings, and assassination attempts.
There can be no forgiveness for that type of personality whose pathology needs treatment, not forgiveness. I tell them about the cases, that women and men, too, keep silent. These are extremes that I have experienced at the Foundation against gender abuse, where I have lived with a multidisciplinary team, for some years now, Galen.
Is forgiveness an act of love?... Of course, if, in general, without going to extremes, a situation can be softened through forgiveness. I've experienced it.
Forgiveness comes from within, from the heart, that is, out of conviction, because you feel it. And it's not about manipulating, repressing... but an act of free love. The reason doesn't go that far. Only in extreme cases.
For example, when someone unintentionally does something... one catches his attention without aggressiveness... I mean to notice any difference, there is no why. Not to forgive. One realizes immediately when there is no intention to do harm.
It's a look at yourself, it's a look at the other.
Forgiving oneself is more "laborious". But forgiveness comes. Forgive yourself for continuing a charade for a long time. It's time to end that. And get out in freedom and forgiveness comes, without the guilt.
I think that distinction is important. We return to the phrase: an act of love, an understanding look...soft... warm, respectful.🤍 how far?
I add a phrase I learned as a teenager, Galen..." To love is to never have to ask for forgiveness." The movie Love Story, with the actors, Ryan O'Neal and Ali Mac Graw.
Why? Caring for love is caring for a rose with thorns on its stem, one person cannot dump everything on the other. The problems remain where they should. If I am never mistreated, I don't have to ask for forgiveness. Treat the person gently. It costs nothing and becomes a habit, very good and natural. Make you laugh, make you forget, distract, accompany, and leave alone when you should... letting go is love.
The one who truly loves is not selfish. Only this phrase holds a big secret.
It's real. It can be done. Only one should find a couple, with many points of view in common. They are all qualitative. I am lucky to have J.R. on my journey.
*Happy day, happy life and weekend engagement #171, dear Galen 💐✨
When I talk about the quality of love and forgiveness, this quote by Pedro Ustinovse takes all the prizes, when differences make no difference.
In the photos, Galen, earlier yesterday morning, I found more beautiful than ever, the city of Maracaibo. My rainy city dawns, and even the beloved sun continues with its natural habit, illuminating and filling my existence with vitality to continue with my morning exercises, early morning, this is love by myself.
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