Don’t get the wrong idea about what you see in these photos—I swear we were just having our afternoon coffee… The whiskey came later 😅 Today I want to post my entry for Week 303 of the Weekend-Engagement and focus on the third topic, the only one that really made me question myself at this point in my life, and that is, being clear about what attracts me and what repels me in people isn’t something I think about every day, but rather something I feel in the moment, and although each person evokes a particular feeling, there are certain similarities among everyone that make me want to keep them close or far from me.
I think I’ll start with the easiest part: the things that turn me off in people. If you’re a natural-born jerk, you could never be part of my close circle of friends, and in fact, if you already have the privilege of being there and start showing your true colors, you’ll eventually be kicked out. I think we all find people off-putting for the same reasons, but to clarify, for me, an idiot is someone who supports injustice, or it could also be those people who go through life without respecting others. The bare minimum I demand from someone to have them in my circle is respect.
What Dr. Galenkp has really got me thinking about this weekend is: What is it that attracts me to people? And right now, something very curious is happening to me—something that’s only started happening since I turned 35. For the first time, all the people I choose to spend time with are men, setting aside my wife, who is my life partner... It really is strange, since for as long as I can remember, all—and I mean ALL—of my friends have been women.
I don't think it's for sexist reasons, but rather because of how I see life right now. Naturally, I love people very much—it’s part of who I am—and I’m very clear that loving people doesn’t mean being with them all the time; you can love from a distance too, since the most important thing is to love ourselves. I wrote something that describes this well two weeks ago on Weekend-Engagement, when I talked about my wife’s friends—people I care about, but with whom I’ve often decided to be more casual because of their such a gray way of thinking.
The guys and I have our dark moments too, and as friends, of course we share them and give each other advice, but we don’t get stuck dwelling on them. The guys in these photos are the people I spend the most time with right now, but there are a lot of people I’m drawn to at the moment—my brother, coworkers, and even some women I’ve met in the last few days. One of them is from here in Hive and lives in Málaga, and almost all of them share the same traits: they’re strong people living in the midst of chaos, not complaining about their reality, just taking charge of their own lives.
It’s not that I want to discriminate against anyone, but the only thing that really draws me to people right now is their wisdom, their optimism, and their zest for life. I’m not at an age where I want to be surrounded by people over 30 who keep saying “someday”; right now, I just want to be part of those who are already creating that future in the present, because I’m in that process myself, and it’s going well for me, and the opposite shocks me—it shocks me when people say that everything happens in its own time, without doing anything and defending that opinion to the point of confronting those who want to give them advice.
The day I gave some advice to people who needed it and ended up getting scolded, I realized that everyone will come to their own conclusions when they’re ready, and that I should just focus on myself. But I also started naturally distancing myself from people like that, even if they’re friends. At this age, I’m really drawn to people with a life plan, people who’ve achieved things, and positive people—and the best part is that I learn from them. in fact, the guys in these photos are a perfect example of what I’m saying—they’re friends, but also an inspiration. And I’m not saying I look for people with perfect lives to have around me—no, you can have a life, but if you’re willing to work on it, then you’re one of my kind 😉