Preparing for a first date usually comes with a mixture of excitement and a little bit of nervous tension for some people. Usually the aim of going on a date for most people if not all, is that they want to look good, act good, and leave a nice impression on the lady. But sometimes, the more someone tries to be perfect, the more mistakes they might end up making.
So, for you my friend who want to go for a date, these are the few tips out of many that I will give you.
The first tip I will give you is to dress well for the date. The first thing anyone notices on a date is the appearance of the person they are on a date with. Dressing well doesn't mean that you must dress like a celebrity or wear expensive clothes or trying to look like someone else. Noo!!!. What I mean by dressing well is for you to look neat, smell good, and show that you put effort into how you present yourself.
When someone sees you for the first time, they form their first impression based on what they see and by your dressing, some people can give their judgement on the kind of person you are. Dressing well already send a message to that person you are on a date with that you respect yourself and also respect them.
It is always good to smell nice on a date. Nobody wants to sit close to someone who smells sweaty or unkempt, and nobody wants a smell that is too strong either. So get a light perfume and spray on yourself.
Also, the clothes you should wear should be comfortable not something that will make you feel uncomfortable, not something that will make you to keep adjusting or feeling awkward throughout the date. Just wears something that fits you and feels good, something that can make you feel relax.
The second tip I will give you my friend is to be yourself. I believe this is the most important part of a date. Many people get nervous on a first date because they feel the pressure to impress the lady or guy they are on a date with. Some people start acting differently, pretending to be someone they are not, or trying too hard to appear perfect. But the truth is that pretending only works for a short time. Eventually, the real person in you will show some how, and it may end up in disappointment for you. This is why I would tell my friend to be himself. There is no need to act perfect. Be natural, be comfortable, and be real. A first date is not a performance, it is just two people trying to get to know each other. Whatever pretending you make might definitely show your real self some how.
People who are real to themselves don’t need to remember anything or which role they are trying to play. What you are, you are and what you are not, you are not.
Be confidence in what you do. Bro, the truth is when you accept who you are, you don’t feel the pressure of trying to impress anyone. You simply present yourself in the most honest way. And most times, people appreciate honesty more than perfection.
Avoid unnecessary pretending bro, I still repeat this again.. if you don’t know something, it is better to admit it instead of acting like you do. If you don’t like a certain thing, there is no need to pretend you love it. Pretending can create a false image, and once the truth comes out later, it may cause disappointment. So please don't pretend. Just be real, be calm and create a comfortable atmosphere. Be yourself bro!!!
The third tip I want to tell you my friend is to keep every conversation simple with your date. Many people make the mistake of diving into deep personal topics too early. A first date is not the time for you to ask about a person's past relationships or family problems, or emotional issues. Noo!! Bro. These kind of topics can make the other person feel uncomfortable, especially when both of you are still trying to warm up to each other.
So it is important not to talk too much or too little. You know, a first date conversation should be friendly. Ask about the likes and dislikes and hobbies, dreams, just simple conversation. You should talk about yourself but also give her time to speak to.
Some personal topics can change the mood of a date, and once the mood changes, it can be hard sometimes to bring it back to a comfortable level again. That is why sticking to a friendly conversation and discussions works best.
The goal of a first date is not for you to know everything about the other person in one day. There is still be time to know each other when both of you start getting more acquainted with each other. But for now, It is simply to meet, talk, and see if there is a connection worth exploring further. When the conversation feels simple both of you leave with a good feeling, and that is what makes a date successful.
So my friend, be yourself okay!!! And I wish you the best on your date bro..