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It's really easy to say the words I love you which truly might be how you feel at that point in time, and also really hard saying it when you don't really feel like it probably because you are angry or hurt. I guess this is why so many tend to classify love first as a feeling... In my opinion, Love is not really a feeling; You can feel hungry, you can feel happy, you can feel like dying, you can feel like having sex, and you can feel what it means to be loved... But then again, all these feelings go away at some point and you feel the exact opposite of how you felt, wondering why you even felt the way you did.
WHAT I LOVE THE MOST ABOUT LOVE
The thing I love the most about love is that the true nature of it is without feelings, emotions, or sentiment, however, it breeds all this at certain points. I say this because, In my opinion, love is one, just love, whether it's for a spouse, relative, friend, or even a complete stranger, it's just love, and in its uniqueness Can breed different emotions which define the relationship it is in.
I'm not trying to give a lecture here, I know my ideology about love is quite different, so I will prefer to end the boredom of my philosophy here. But then again what makes love worth it is its ability to take in hurt, and still have the wisdom to settle hurt. I know this by observation, having discovered true love only wants peace thus it finds the wisdom to make things right.
I have always talked about my family in some of my posts and how my dad hurt us so much, my mum especially who suffered abuse of all sorts, but then the wisdom to settle the entire dispute didn't come from my dad who hurt us, it came from my mum who was hurt the most because her love for him is true only wanting peace and not revenge. If she was to be sentimental, she would probably have filed for a divorce and would be justified by everyone. But then true love doesn't seek to be justified, it simply seeks to be shown.
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It took me time to truly understand why my mum did what she did, and I couldn't understand until I began to truly love beyond feelings. Love understands that it might never be accepted, it knows that it might never be appreciated, but then it isn't seeking any of such, and at every point of these disputes, it finds the wisdom to solve everything and bring peace. Sometimes though the peace isn't understood until it finally comes, but if you check the heart of the person who loves, you will see that despite all the hurt and pain, it's still loving and will always do what is right. Love is never wrong. It's people who do the wrong things in the name of the feeling of love.
I also remember when a friend I was always looking out for slammed the door to my face because I told her the truth about the relationship she was about to enter, her actions at that period made me cry in secret as she would call me all sorts of names all because I wanted to look out for her. But even with all the hurt, I will continue looking out for her because she is my friend and I love her. When she finally discovered the hard way that I was right all along, it was hard for her to come back, but I had to show her that I never really cared about being right or wrong, even though I was hurt, all I wanted to do was see her happy and it will also be my joy to see her with the right partner that will love and value her the right way. No sentiments attached, just love in its purity.
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