Good afternoon dear hivers, I hope you are having a fun weekend... Below I share with you my participation in the interesting challenge of our friend
What's the best and worst advice you've been given and how have each affected your life?
Thinking back trying to remember the worst advice I have received, the truth is that there have been many, but many times I reflected before taking the step and that saved me from having a bad experience. I did not always have the maturity to be able to react in time and I followed the advice convinced that it was a good decision and it was the opposite. When I graduated from high school, I was always convinced that my true vocation was to study psychology, all my life I have been fascinated by analyzing the emotional and mental behavior of people. At that time my school used to conduct academic tests that served as an orientation for all students. It was a good tool for those who were undecided and disoriented about their professional vocation. At that time the University that offered the psychology career was very far from my home, despite this inconvenience I managed to enroll, but I was not selected in the morning shift but in the afternoon, which meant arriving home at night. I asked my family and my best friends for advice, they all advised me to enroll in a university near my home and to choose a career similar to psychology, after analyzing well I decided to study law. At the time of enrollment I was informed that in two years they were going to open the psychology career in that university, I was very happy thinking that in 2 years I could enroll in the career I had always wanted to study, time passed and that possibility vanished completely, in 5 years I had obtained my law degree. I worked for several years as a lawyer in the civil area, most of the cases were divorce cases, those who know me know that I always bet on reconciliation and to avoid an emotional fracture, this job was something that made me unhappy, but I had the good fortune to be hired as a medical visitor, I practiced this job for many years. The truth is that it was a very gratifying work experience that left me with a lot of satisfaction. From that bad decision I learned that we must never allow distance to be an impediment to be faithful to our dreams, we must fight against all odds to build our path, it is up to us to find the tools to achieve it and have the mental strength so that nothing can stop us.
For many years of my life I had the difficulty to say no, many times I made wrong decisions because of the fear of saying no and feeling that this negative answer could hurt the person's feelings. In that long process of accepting situations to avoid a conflict, I left me with the sensation of feeling dissatisfied with the way I acted, I remember that many times my friends borrowed money from me and seldom returned it. When I made the decision to start saying no, I lost some friends who were not really true friends, the truth is that in this loss I came out winning, since I could check which were my true friends. The truth is that it was not easy for me to learn to say no, I had to go to therapy to learn and understand that saying “NO” is okay, that the important thing is to be true to your feelings and emotions... Without a doubt this is the best advice I have ever received, because it is the best way to overcome verbal fear and to act in a transparent and genuine way.