Happy Sunday, blogging friends! Here I am again with my weekend experience. This time, I saw that many of the topics revolved around friendship, and again, it wasn't easy to choose because so many topics inspired me. But since I generally prefer more irreverent topics, I decided to talk about this: friends with benefits. Pros and cons, it's a somewhat controversial topic. Have I had any? Yes, and not a few, because when I was young, I wasn't interested in serious relationships, but I didn't disdain the more casual ones. However, in my opinion, this type of relationship requires several things: a certain type of character, respect for each other's needs, clarity, boundaries, and honesty.
Many women and men start out with friends with benefits hoping it will then turn into a love story. In my opinion, this is wrong. Friends with benefits are friends who decide to also share the sexual side of their relationship. In my opinion, sex and love are distinct; they can be together, but they can also be separated. Obviously, if a person's way of experiencing sexuality is strongly linked to love or a certain type of emotionality, I advise against having friends with benefits.
And here we come back to clarity: if you embark on this type of friendship, you have to be clear and completely honest about what you want, your limits, and what you expect from these relationships. And you also have to be aware of the risks and benefits of this type of friendship. For me, it's never been a problem. I've always spoken clearly and managed to separate sex, friendship, and love. I've developed some wonderful friendships with some of my friends with benefits; with others, however, the friendship ended when the benefits ended; with others, it ended because they had a crush and I didn't. Now, to some of you, I may seem a bit easy, and I have been, and I don't regret it.
I believe it's right to experience sex as you see fit, as long as there's respect, honesty, and protection. So, my opinion on friends with benefits is absolutely favorable, but it's not right for everyone!
You need to be very aware of your own needs and those of others, as well as have a great deal of honesty and good communication. However, if you have all of this, some friendships with benefits can turn out to be wonderful experiences!
First picture edited by my phone translation with deepl.