Good evening, blogging friends, here I am again participating in the weekend experience. Today I chose the wedding-related prompt:
Big weddings or smaller, more intimate weddings - Which would you prefer and why?
For this occasion, I dug out my wedding photos (I hope I don't get accused of recycling photos since I already used them for my wedding post; after all, these are all I have for wedding photos 🤣). However, if I were to go back, I would choose an intimate wedding. Honestly, I had chosen one for mine too. My guest list was really short, but my husband is from southern Italy, and God forbid he doesn't invite all his relatives, down to his second cousins. Even though ours wasn't a traditional wedding, as you can tell from the look, we had about a hundred guests, too many for my taste.
I would have preferred a simpler, smaller wedding. I have nothing against large weddings, but there's too much chaos, too many people, endless kissing and greetings, everyone wants to talk to everyone, so many people don't know each other, and then we need to talk about the organization and costs? So stressful!
Having experienced it myself, I can assure you that a large wedding is incredibly stressful. If I could do it again, I'd do something much smaller and more intimate, not only for the financial reasons but also for the peace it brings. Large weddings are too distracting, and there are too many relatives involved. In the end, you waste more time trying to please everyone than enjoying a day that should be just for you and the groom. Unfortunately, here in Italy, large weddings are very common, especially for those from the south, who sometimes celebrate for up to three days straight and spend a lot of money. Some even go into debt to have a wedding!
Now I'd choose an intimate ceremony, a select few people, something simple, a quick one, and perhaps a lunch with close friends and family at a nice restaurant, perhaps spending a little more but prioritizing quality over quantity. This way, there would be no unnecessary pleasantries or superficial conversations, and there wouldn't be any arguing over flowers, food, decorations, and all the other trivialities, like the favors I fought over with my mother-in-law! I would have preferred a small wedding, also because I don't need big, luxurious, or flashy things. The ideal would have been in the mountains, perhaps in a small cabin with simple mountain food. But that's all there is to it now. Let's just say that if we ever do a vow renewal, it will definitely be intimate and with just a few guests!
First picture edited by my phone translation with deepl.