There are times I wished an opportunity shows up and would just say Yes even without thinking much about it because of how badly I wanted it but there hasn't been a chance or moment that calls for it. Likewise, moments when I would say No but somehow, they ended up happening when I couldn't control it. I will be sharing the list of things I'd like to say Yes and No to.
Seeing movies in the theater/cinema: I have been told many times how fun and amazing seeing movies in the theater or cinema feels like. Apart from people telling me that, I have seen it in movies many times where the guy would take his lady to the cinema where they'd watch movies, eat popcorn and have a nice wine to complement with as they enjoy the fun in such a dark room. I'd love to say yes to this if given the chance because I have not been there before.
The reason I haven't said yes to this is not that I want a guy to take me there, it's something I can go by myself but in the city where I stay, there isn't any and I am hoping to be in a place where visiting the cinema won't be difficult to do. I want to feel that fun and how being in the dark room feels like.
Having a lunch break with a friend: The only time I did this with a friend was when we finished our exams in the afternoon and we decided to go eat out. But should we call this lunch break though? No, I want an opportunity where I would be working and a friend would walk up to me and say, "hey girl, let's go for lunch when it's break time" then, I would smile with a Yes to him or her. I love this moment too where it's you and the other person enjoying yourselves and sharing how the day is going and how you can't wait to close and go home.
Some help: It's not possible not to seek help in one way even if you think you are independent and can do things yourself. There is power in teamwork and one would easily do something much faster when there are people involved than just a person lifting the whole furniture to a new apartment. I would love to say Yes to some help if asked me. I wouldn't want to feel all-knowing because it's bad and makes one feel proud. So, I don't want that. I want a helping hand. So, yes, let's do it together or just help me with something.
Things that make me come alive: I am in an environment where I feel not belonging because I am always indoors as I do not want to mix up too much with the wrong mentality of people around me. There are things that I want to say yes to that will make me come alive; like exploring places, going to the parks, and gardens, hiking, taking pictures with sweet people who love to have fun but I don't have it here.
I haven't seen the opportunity here and if I see, then, I am saying yes so I can feel the vibe in the outside world, I want to explore places and write about them. I want someone who knows a lot of fun places that we could visit together and who makes me feel alive. I have just been in my room all day every seven days except I go to church service or the market as if I've been caged.
Forming a book club: Yes, yes, and yes. I'd love to say yes to this as many times as I want to. Reading books with other people and sharing our knowledge is something I ever wished for. I want a book club where we get to share ideas because why? I want to see others' views on the same book we are reading. I want to listen to what reading books feels like to them. People around me do not yet understand the importance of reading books. All they know is to watch movies and that's it. I would love to say yes to a book club which will be super interesting.
Last-minute meal planning: Oh no! How I wish I could say no to this but some days call for it. I might be on my computer for a long time and would not remember I needed to make breakfast, lunch, or dinner but when my tummy is making that sound, I know I am hungry. I get to prepare my meal at the last minute when I should have gotten it done before that time. By the time I am making the meal, I feel my legs and body shaking.
I have always starved myself to the last minute before knowing I should have put something on the fire to continue cooking. I know people who have had ulcers because of not eating on time and I wouldn't want that to happen. I still find myself struggling with it because of my addiction to staying on my phone and computer.
Too much stress: This is another area I would want to say no to but I cannot control it. Stress happens daily and I don't seem to stop what's causing it. I am always stressed when I visit the market, stressed when I stay too long on my phone, stressed when I walk a far distance, stressed when I do a rigorous task like cleaning the whole room, etc. But can one stay away from all of these?
I wish I just could say no because of my sanity, peace, and most importantly health, but I think I will just continue getting stressed while I destress with effective tips which I have always done.
Being Ungrateful: no no no! I would want to say no to this. Why? Being grateful shows that you appreciate what has been done to you and can receive more while being ungrateful makes you a stupid person because you wouldn't receive next time. I'd like to sternly and strictly say no to being ungrateful because that's not me.
Comparing my life to someone: Agree with me on this: we find ourselves doing this many times but the ability to control yourself and say no means you are strong. There are times I still do this too because I am still human with the flesh residing in me. But I don't want to keep thinking through it till I get obsessed with the habit and having to do what they do. No, I don't want to compare my life to others to a stage I wouldn't be able to control myself, then see myself as worthless and incapable.
Complacency: No, I would say no to this many times because I want to keep trying harder and not feel as if I am satisfied with my achievement without wanting to do something else because I feel I might not have it. I wouldn't want to settle in my comfort zone but be pushed to do more. Though I am still in the same environment I want to leave so dreadfully if an opportunity should come, and I feel I don't want to go elsewhere because I don't know how. I would like to seek more chances out there, so, no to complacency.
This is my entry to the Weekend Engagement Concept.
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