During my final year in the university, a very close friend of mine lost her twin brother to sickle cell anemia. I could only imagine what she was going through. I wanted to help her but then I realized I had zero capacity for that.
What made it even worse was that we were in the middle of our final year exams and to take a break then only meant to differ not only the semester but the entire year. She decided to continue with the exams.
Speaking on the phone, I asked her if I could come stay with her for a few days. At least I could help her with some chores and other stuff. Then she replied “ No Fataw, you can’t be here. I want to cry naked and watch all my tears roll down my round belly.”
This facetious reply from her flippantly challenged everything. We suddenly forgot about grieving and burst out laughing so hard. I reminded her of how a mad woman she is and how she would not find a husband with that her silly humor.
For many people, humor is a coping mechanism, a way of expressing joy and gratitude, and a way to lighten the atmosphere.
However, for me, the most important thing about humor is its ability to create a perspective, a whole new paradigm for addressing a difficult situation or challenging an established culture.
Addressing serious and sensitive issues with a humorous perspective reminds people in that situations to see beyond the problems. This lightens the gravity of serious or difficult challenges. It encourages a more lighthearted approach to life’s problems.
In essence, humor provides a unique paradigm for observing and understanding life’s uncertainties, complications, and complexities.
Having a considerable sense of humor always reminds me that even amid adversity, there are moments of levity and opportunities to find joy.
