Can loneliness and depression be worse than dying?
You learn what loneliness is when you hear the silence of things. Emil Cioran
As we know since the creation of the world, there began to be many rituals to prepare the deceased for the long journey they had to make and hence many questions about the passage in the afterlife, questions whose answer we certainly do not know even today (this is my opinion), the most common I have heard is "What is it like on the other side?".
I don't want to start a religious discussion about it because it's not the topic of this weekend but I want to talk to you about it:
The deep-thought weekend
Is there something worse than dying? What is it and why do you feel it is worse? Explain your answer.
Loneliness
From what you will read below and from my experiences I say yes, there is something worse than dying.
The first condition that comes to mind that I think is worse than death is loneliness.
Linking myself to loneliness brings to mind a series of questions.
What is loneliness really?
Can I go over it myself?
Of course I think loneliness would be a way of discovering yourself, it could represent a break from reality, from the world around you, the only sounds being your voice or the thoughts going through your mind, it's lonely, you don't see or hear anything, you don't interact with anyone, you don't accept anyone around you, loneliness can be dangerous if it has a one way street.
How do I realize that I suffer from loneliness?
Does loneliness hurt?
Very simple, here I will come up with some examples that represent my opinion, the first example would be when you as a human being choose to withdraw, because of some problems you choose not to have anyone around you and people around you will marginalize you so that you will reach the state or feeling of rejection from others, there is another way to see the loneliness that of rediscovering yourself, that is not to perceive it as a bad thing.
From my own experience I can say that there are some states in which you can feel loneliness, namely when a parent (in my case grandmother) loses her child (my mother) after a long period of suffering, I do not want to develop too much the path of suffering from the discovery of the torments and efforts made to succeed in discovering a remedy, but all this done in vain, the separation of the soul from the body is something hard to understand (at least for me).
Indeed, my grandmother, without her only child (my mother) told us after a few days that she was lonely, we tried to tell her that we were with her (her grandchildren) and that we would continue to support her, she remained in a deep loneliness, which in my opinion brought her end after a few years (2 years), every time I talked to her on the phone I felt a wall at the other end of the line.
Quickly another question came to my mind, if there is something better than death, if asked us if there is something worse than death I also came up with the opposite question, maybe some of those who have the curiosity to read what I wrote here will think about it.
Depression
My second opinion is that what can be worse than death is depression, the state in which you fall as if in a huge void from which alone you do not know how to get out, I discovered people who struggled for years with depression, many trips made to doctors to help them overcome this state, but to no avail, it is true that 50% is the will of the people and the rest is the result of medical.
At least I don't know and I'm not sure if I can be a support or a friend for someone who has fallen into a depression, I'm afraid, maybe I take two steps back, in these cases we need a lot of patience and understanding, that makes the difference I don't have these two qualities (I admit I have this minus), in these cases I think that the best friends of people who suffer from depression are the people who have also gone through it (at one time they also fell prey to depression but they managed to escape from that huge void).
The only thing you can do is try to encourage someone to get over their depression.
Now let me tell you a secret, by 2020 when the pandemic was everywhere, we were not allowed to go out of the house, go to the supermarket, go to parties, go to friends, all these things that involved socializing with people, it was a shock to me, also the job I have is based on interacting with people, and at one point I started to feel sick, I mean I felt dizzy, that was the only symptom, a day or two went by and I decided to go for a covid test, I was sure I had contracted the virus, but when I got the result, surprise, it came out negative.
Since receiving the result I have not spoken to anyone, not even my wife, whom I told to leave me alone, to take my mobile phone, this lasted more than a week, until the people I care about came or told me "don't leave me" and "what they can do for me to get back to how I was before".
In conclusion, take time to listen to these people, armed with a lot of patience, you will need, and do not give up because you will surely succeed as I wrote 50% of the remedy is in our hands.
At the end of today's post I can say that there are many things that can be worse than dying, I have chosen to talk about two of them and because of the experiences I have had and I learned to Listen, take time, understand, accept, advise.
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P.S. The attached pictures you have just seen are taken by me with my mobile phone, and the text is also designed by me.