I possess excellent eyesight; believe me. I observe things that could elicit reactions, like biting the lower lip or blushing cheeks in a woman. When gazing at the opposite sex, my initial focus is on their trousers—does it reveal a bulge or not? A bulge suggests endowment, while its absence might imply otherwise. Nevertheless, experience has enlightened me that it is not always about size; it's also about how it's utilized. A handsome face, impressive physique, and stylish attire capture my attention, but for me, emotions play a crucial role beyond mere appearances.
My emotions are stirred by what I sense, not solely by what I see, and this is where touch becomes significant. It transcends being a mere sensation; it evolves into a carefully extended moment, crafting an experience that gratifies both individuals involved. Touch possesses the ability to alter moods and establish a profound connection with physical intimacy. When touched in the appropriate manner and places, it triggers an exhilarating tingle up the spine, stimulating nerves in erogenous zones, preparing the body eagerly for the subsequent actions.
For me, the magic of touches unfolds only when I find the person attractive. If touched by someone I like but don't find attractive, it leaves me flushed and slightly uncomfortable. When touched by someone I don't fancy at all, it sparks irritation within me.
Regrettably, the limited experiences I've had with men reveal a lack of understanding of proper touch. Some display a mechanical approach, while others are overly rough, disrupting any positive atmosphere. An example is Kenneth. Despite not being drawn to this persistent suitor, I chose to go on a date, optimistic that getting to know him might reveal something appealing over time.
I met up with him at an open bar beneath the sky. Soft music filled the air, and seemingly sensing the right atmosphere, he impulsively grasped my hands and planted a rather inappropriate kiss—or, to be more precise, he licked it with his tongue. It was a repulsive moment, and I do not need to share how the date ended.
I've also encountered a couple of men with a talent for touch. I once jokingly told a friend that he had "magic fingers." It may sound amusing, but for me, it takes a special touch to spark anything beyond platonic interest. Take Daniel, for instance. Daniel paid me a visit, and after a nice lunch, he suggested we watch a movie, and his preference was a horror movie. While watching the horror movie, he subtly draped his right hand across my shoulder, eventually intertwining his fingers with the back of my hair.
Unknown to him, that seemingly innocent touch was venturing into risky territory, awakening the wrong hormones for a horror movie date. As he continued exploring with his fingers, I leaned in, granting him more space. His touch shifted from the back of my head to my earlobes and down my neck. Unable to bear it alone, I reciprocated, tracing my fingers from his hand, up his arm, and into the expanse of his hairy chest after unbuttoning his shirt. What started as innocent touches took an adventurous turn, and soon, the movie had no viewers as exploration overtook the screen.
Just as timely touches can trigger the release of oxytocin and create a positive mood, the right lighting has a similar effect. Have you ever considered why blind individuals tend to be more sensitive? It's because when one sensory area is lost, the brain rewires itself, prioritizing and enhancing other sensory organs.
Dimming the lights during intimate moments taps into the principle of enhancing the sensory experience. While you enjoy seeing the allure of your partner, the choice to keep certain visuals obscured adds an element of mystery, focusing more on the sensory pleasures of touch, taste, smell, and sound. I enjoy admiring the sexual attractiveness of the man I'm with, but I prefer concentrating on the sensory aspects of our intimacy. I like hearing soft moans, feeling our connection, tasting the saltiness of skin as I kiss, and smelling their essence without seeing it.
Eliminating the visual element helps me avoid potential distractions, such as witnessing unappealing facial expressions or focusing on explicit details that might put me off. With the lights off, it allows us to immerse ourselves in darkness, enhancing the exploration of sensations and creating a more profound experience. It's just like closing your eyes while kissing, amplifying the connection through touch and feel.
Understanding and respecting your partner's body language is crucial in the lead-up to intimacy. Each action leading to sex plays a significant role, and being attuned to your partner's preferences ensures a smoother and more enjoyable transition, preventing any missteps that could turn a beautiful moment into an unpleasant one.
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