Nothing pierces the heart more than a stab from a close friend. I think sometimes when people act, in their little mind, they expect you never find out, and they live in denial. They act like nothing has happened and relate with you well even after they know in their heart that they did you wrong greatly. Some will even go the extra mile of asking favour's from you. Scoffs! That is exactly what happened to me recently.
One thing I've learned in life as I grew older, is taking my time, observing and discerning instead of confronting immediately I learn about something. It's not easy, but I had to learn it to be able to maintain my peace of mind and also maintain that friendship by trying to see things from a different perspective. (That's for friends who are worth it because not every friendship deserves a second chance). Hence the saying "once bitten, twice shy."
I visited a friend who was much older, almost 20 years older actually, she's someone I respect a lot. While helping out, she said there was something she heard about me. She wasn't happy about it, and decided to ask me directly. I asked what it was about and what she said left me striken and perturbed. I was so enraged because I knew only one person could have disclosed that information because she was with me when I had the conversation over the phone. The annoying part was, she didn't get all the facts, but what hurts the most was the same person asking me to lend her some money.
After hearing from the older person, the next thing in my head was just to go along with the heat of the flame, confront her and let it all explode. But I asked myself, to what end? What if it only worsens the situation and cause a rift between us?
Both of us would definitely get burnt if I handled it the way it was in my head.
I decided, to stay calm and let it slide. I acted like I had forgotten about her request for the money and after 2 days, she called asking about the money and I sent it to her. She was very happy and thanked me greatly for my help.
I applauded myself for using my power of discernment to handle the situation and saving my friendship. Yes, she did say something about me without knowing all the facts, but maybe she didn't really mean it the way I was told. Besides, not every action deserves a reaction!
Sometimes, when things happen, we get angry but after the anger surge, we need to take a deep breathe, smile and let it go especially when it involves people we care about.
This incident made me realize how much I've grown. I'm sooo grown!🥰
