Rejection can take place in many domains of life in society, work and romantic relationships. How a person reacts to that experience can influence their mood, behaviour and even their attitudes towards others. It's interesting to note from these two studies that the nature of rejection that women and men deal with is different.
Studies show women are more likely to feel worried when rejecting unwanted romantic or sexual advances (Moran & Burch, 2023). To feel safe, women dodge by means of ghosting, blocking, or seeking help, while men will report lower distress from the same issues and will remain sociable afterwards (Moran & Burch, 2023).
Self-esteem is yet another influencing factor. When men have an inflated self-esteem while their internal self-esteem does not support this, problems arise. It is often manifested in the form of negative attitudes to women and tends to support male leadership roles (Mansell 2022) which may act as a way to protect their self-image. The study focused on the psychological aspects rather than the rejection response. However, it shows how an underlying fragility of self-esteem can amplify negative stigma and attitudes in gendered social rejection.
It is important for individuals to understand the pattern so that they use more empathy and respect. This would also help support individuals better, allow for healthier interaction with less stress and create an environment where social encounters are safe, respectful, and constructive.
References: Mansell, J., & Gatto, M. A. C. (2022). Insecurity and self‑esteem: Elucidating the psychological foundations of negative attitudes toward women. Politics & Gender. https://doi.org/10.1017/S1743923X22000083
Moran, J. B., & Burch, R. L. (2023). Repercussions of rejecting unwanted advances: Gender differences in experience and concern. International Journal of Sexual Health. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1080/19317611.2023.2175098
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