Hello Cent platform! I'm just imagining if the people we look at as causes of our problem or we're truly the cause of our own problems.
There was a day I almost lost my marriage due to some happenings around that led me to expose some to a friend when I was seeking for an advise about the said matter. The issue in discussion wasn't something that should be said outside. After a month, my dad told me that someone came to the house to inform my mom about that my friend told her about my wife and my dad said such a friend needs to be avoided.
I became angry at some point but I realized that it was the amount of information I gave to her that she had. This is true, nobody has an edge over you until they have a certain amount of information about you.
Many a times, we play the blame game and decides to push our lack of success to others why we're the problem not them.
An individual will not plan his or her life properly when the opportunities arise and when such opportunities are over, we tend push the blame on others.
Sometimes we give strangers enough space in our lives and later blame them for taking too much space. Everyone should take decisions for themselves and not allow wrong people to take decisions for them.
There are things we regret today that would've been avoided from happening if only we understood the signs and signals that came knocking our door. For instance, as a young man you had opportunities to make a lot of money at a tender age and what was important to you is to spend on women and friends. Mind you most so called friends will take advantage of our vulnerability to enrich themselves and once the money finishes they'll leave us to suffer.
I'll conclude by saying that before you blame others for your problems look inwards and search for the real cause of your problems to know if it was from within or outside.
Thanks!