"If I am often seen at the theatre, people will cease to notice me".
Napoleon Bonaparte
Scarcity is one of the best means you can use to create value for yourself. The things that we value in our world today are mostly what is scarce.
Money is valuable because it is not easy to get and can't be available abundantly for all. We value celebrities because they are hard to see, businesses thrive because we they use scarcity to improve on their quality of product.
If you feel you are becoming less important or valuable to the people around you and there is an urgent need to work on yourself, scarcity will help you achieve that.
Why not just try to make yourself scarce for a year, leave that place were everybody knows and sees you as just a common person. You the time of absence to create value for yourself.
When I mean become scarce, it does mean you just vanish from people around and hope to be valuable by just doing that. When you are absent, use that time to work on yourself seriously, development yourself personally. Do not solely depend on absence alone.
Work on every area of your like, increase your networth, keep your body in good shape by exercising, learn a high demanding skill, improve your communication skills by working on your vocabulary, you need good words to make things happen for you.
Do a work of transformation on yourself and appear like a new being, so that whenever and wherever you show up, people would see value in you.
Life can seem frustrating when you are around people who don't see your or value your worth. Whether you like it or not, most people would only come to you when you have value to offer, and when they come and they find nothing in you, they see you as important.
Use absence to develop your personal life, work on yourself and avoid the risk of people always turning you down because you have nothing to offer. Be value.