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There's nothing as beautiful as marriage. The initiator of marriage really took time to design it to its best state. But it marvels me as people turn and deviate from the original plans of marriage to be a war zone. Domestic Violence has now become the order of the day in our today's society. The misconception of marriage has lure many to engage in domestic violence which in most cases lead to the lost of life of one the partners and also the increasing the rate of divorce cases in our contemporary society has become so alarming but in real sense, this wasn't initiator's (God) conception about marriage.
Matthew 19:8: Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
Marriage is a state of being married. It is a union of two or more people that creates a family tie and carries legal, social, and/or religious rights and responsibilities. Religiously, marriage is a union of only two people, to the exclusion of all others.
Misconception of marriage is the main factor of domestic violence in marriage. Marriage was not design by the creator to be a ground of domestic violence but an avenue of enjoyment of life togetherness.
Genesis 2:21-24: So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh
Though there's a popular saying in religious circle whenever wedding is conducted in the church which says, "for better for worst" doesn't mean domestic violence in marriage.
But the inability to understand both concept of marriage and the popular saying is what makes some marriages act like marijuana. Though marriage might be tough at times in which could be caused by financial instability, socio-economic challenges, child bearing problems and health challenges but none called for a man beating his wife like drums in name of marriage.
- The first concept of marriage is that both partners become one.
Genesis 2:24: That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Until the partners come to the understanding that they are one person not two different person and whatever that happened to the other same happened to his or her, they will not overcome domestic violence.
- The second concept of marriage is that they both have the same bone and blood.
Genesis 2:23: The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
Many partners has not come this understanding that they both have same bone so in that case there would be no form of violence among them.
- The third of marriage is that they both partners have one fresh.
Genesis 2:23-24: That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
When the partners know that they have the same fresh which is just one, then they won't hurt each other. They both partners must have this mindset before marriage that there will someday which one of the two will be provoking, but one must be ready to calm the other down.
Irrespective of the misunderstanding which could occurs as the result of argument and quarrelling between the partners, the best action is taking a breathe and count from one to fifty, before finished counting this numbers, the volume of anger might be reduced or you simply walked away but beating up a woman or vice versa is not acceptable.
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