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Shyness is a harmful situation, and most of the time it seems normal but it's not, because it interferes with us associating, socializing, as well as affects our self-confidence and self-esteem. It can also prevent us from taking advantage of opportunities and trying new things.
Shyness was one of the greatest challenge I had, it hindered me from speaking out, even when I was in pain, thinking that nobody would believe me, hiding in the crowd, always to avoid speaking up or being called to stand up to give answers to questions, apart from being an introvert, part of my lonely life and isolation was as a result of shyness, I isolated myself so as to run away from responsibilities, so that I will not be called upon to speak publicly.
I also had trouble making new friends. shyness tarnishes that part of my life away from people, I couldn't interact with people, and i was always busy like a bee doing nothing.
Shyness was a normal life for me and I felt so comfortable and I grew with it because it was mild and harmless, and it got to a point where I was now struggling because I became uncomfortable and isolating myself was hurting deeply which lead to an unhappy life even when I tried to stay happy amd smile always.....so with that i had to looked for a way to overcome it, because it was taking a greater part of my life.
To overcome it I had to be intentional about it, deciding to break out of the shell no matter the cost, although it was not that easy at first, but with determination and consistency I was able to break through.
STEPS TO OVERCOME SHYNESS
Some of the steps I used to overcome it were
Discovering what triggers it:
To overcome shyness, I had to understand the circumstances that trigger my shyness, work to change my mental state and perspective regarding those circumstances, and practice putting myself in comfortable and uncomfortable situations until I've worked through the worries holding me back.Focus my attention on others
Also importantly focusing on others, placing my mental attention elsewhere. When I stopped focusing on myself, i stopped being worried about how to come off it.
And this was easy when I concentrated on my passion, feeling compassionate, sympathetic, and empathetic, I have stopped being concerned about myself and started devoting my mental resources to understanding others.Developing my Assertiveness.
My shyness was overly concerned with other peoples' reactions, and what they will say, so I overcame it by my assertiveness, but that doesn't mean I was wimpy or a coward. Being assertive, I had to speak up for myself when i should, asking for what i want or telling other people when they're stepping on my toes.Give myself a chance:
I joined group activities where I share my interests. Give myself a chance to practice socializing with others, and getting to know them slowly, because i was always scared of failing or hearing judgemental words from people about me, because that was what kept me from trying. So I had to treat myself as my best friend. Where I encourage myself instead of expecting to fail, that was where I started building self-confidence.Surround myself with supportive friends:
Surrounding myself with friends who understand me and not judge my shyness, those that makes me feel better about myself. Those that encourage me to step outside my comfort zone and explore other things. That went a long way in helping me.
Breaking out of that shyness didn't happen magically overnight. It took time, effort, and determination for the change to be effective.
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