It’s true that TikTok, Insta and Snapchat are great places that provide content spread across education, finances, entertainment lifestyle and others. These are useful stuff 90% of the time. Then there’s that 10% of the time where the same content or different kinds of content on these platforms have a mot so great impacts on our lives.
Among recent lifestyle adoptions, video-focused social media seems to be on fire regarding toxic behaviors in relationships. Something that men like to brand as being an alpha male and ladies as… well women don’t really have a fancy word for it that I know of, but you get the point.
If you’re like me, your favorite place to go for video entertainment is TikTok. It doesn’t matter if in your case, it’s Instagram, Snapchat, or any other one out there. What I’m going to say next is pretty much a shared characteristics among them these days. We have seen this new trend of content creators on these platforms creating what is known as toxic content for “Kings and “Queens”.
The concept of toxicity almost got into my head about a month ago because let’s just say I consumed too much of these contents I started to act that way. I’ll give my TikTok people an example and I’m more than positive a lot of people on TikTok have seen him. Ladies and Gentlemen, I introduce to you Andrew Tate.
A lot of people are going to argue that Tate’s content is a men’s worth content and to some extent I agree. Yes, Tate gives some solid advice on men’s worth, but let’s look at it again, he does say some very obscene and generally debatable stuff on his podcasts about how men should treat women and about how women need to be submissive and stuff like that. Wow I really managed to suppress saying cuss words like “sh*t” which I would’ve used instead “stuff” a sentence ago lol. Another courtesy of TikTok and maybe movies I believe.
Let’s get back to the point. People follow these content creators in the name of getting “game”. This is what guys like to use to justify their toxic behavior. They say “women love a man that has game”. To them, the “games” or toxicity increases attraction.
Problem is, these toxic games teach people to be all kinds of crazy and weird. Talking about some “You shouldn’t text back quickly” or “make her beg for your attention” or some sh*t like that. Oops.
It opens people up to all forms of trust issues and this is especially worse for people with insecure attachment styles. If you know about the different attachment patterns, you’ll know that people that have an insecure attachment pattern are going to be very vulnerable to these days. You mostly will observe that these are the people who fall victims to the mind games of these toxic people, and are manipulated until they’re either totally brainwashed or have had enough in which case the relationships end. This becomes the origin story of their fuckboy life. They give up on love and choose toxicity too.
The opposite could also be the case where people that know they have insecure attachment patterns are going to be very uptight and will not let their guard down with any lover ever because they’re used to people trying to play them in their relationships because of it.
A continuous cycle of hurt leaves every victim afraid of getting hurt, so what you find in relationships these days is either two people in a relationship with half of everything, or one naive person expecting to be loved and the other too scared to open up because of their previous experiences. There is no full commitment, no attention full time, hot and cold behavior and other stuff.
The funny thing is most of the time, the content creators are only creating these toxic content for fun because it is their content niche. But some people take it too personal to the point that they basically change their entire persona because maybe Tate says “an alpha male doesn’t do X, Y or Z” Or because fisherman says “men that have game do A,B,C”.
We need to watch how much we practice or incorporate the things we see on social media into our lives. This doesn’t just apply to adolescents and young adults but to everyone on a large scale. If we don’t wake up to all these games that have been normalized thanks to social media, we’re going to keep being part of a viscous cycle that will leave our children and young ones with fucked up social lives including attachment issues and never ending emotional roller coasters. Have a great day on social media free of toxic content consumption today!
