There's this gap in information and awareness about sex which I wanna talk about.
Many young girls aren't told or taught about body autonomy or what it is before they start having sex. The few who know about body autonomy learn it as they grow older but many don’t.
A lack of this information would have girls having sex with id!ots, blaming the society or boyfriends, without taking responsibility for their own bodies. I mean, I read posts online every time about how young girls are pressured, manipulated
and blackmailed to give in to sex by the society, friends and even family.
I'm an advocate of sexual purity, however, we can't shut our eyes to the reality that young girls are having sex, unprotected sex and would continue to do under our noses, in this sex-indulging society. And this would continue to happen whether we accept this reality or not.
We all know how to take care of our bodies physically. I mean, you know when to have your bath, and shave your privates. You don't need anyone to do that for you or tell you when to have your bath right? How about transferring this same "control" to our sexual lives.
This “control” is called Body Autonomy.
What's body Autonomy?
Body autonomy is the power and administration over your own body. It’s the control you exude on your own body by yourself free from pressure, manipulation and blackmail.
It's also called Body Bureaucracy.
It’s the right over your body in deciding IF to have sex, WHEN to have sex and with WHO to have sex with.
Let’s take it one after the other.
- IF to have sex. This means choosing whether you'll remain a virgin or not, a celibate or not.
- WHEN to have sex. Understanding the right time to have sex and the consequences that could ensue as a result of choosing a particular time.
- With WHO to have sex. This is an understanding who you’re having sex with, not one who simply wants to use you to satisfy his sexual urges.
It's always baffles me that women who are at the receiving end of unwanted pregnancies, society stigmatization, including ostracism from religious organizations are always the "naive" ones giving in to the sexual demands of the other party who can easily wear his pants and moveeee.
Let's highlight some of these consequences.
- Who bears all of these pregnancy troubles? You!
- Who goes through pregnancy for a whole freaking literally ten months? You!
- Who goes through this excruciating life and death pain to bring forth a baby? You!
- Who is going to be stigmatized as a single mother or a girl who gave birth out of wedlock? You!
- Who’s going to be castigated and humiliated by some religious organizations to participate in this “walk of shame”? You as the woman!
- Who drops out of school or takes a break from whatever she's doing to birth a
baby? You! - Who goes through the traumas and guilts of abortion - if any? You!
- Whose womb or tubes may be destroyed should anything go wrong? You!
- Who may die if complications arise in pregnancy or childbirth? You!
"YOU!!!" are ALWAYS at the short end of the stick!
Even women married to supportive men still go through the uncomfortableperiods of pregnancy & childbirth.
So why don't you take control of your body? Why don't you give yourself sense &
decide WHEN you’ll have sex, IF you'll have sex and with WHO you'll have sex with.
*Why do women have sex when they're broke and now subject themselves to begging money from Facebook strangers?
Why do you put yourself in this shameful position - which a mere understanding of body control would have stopped?
Why do you allow the society pressure you to have sex with a man in order to sustain a relationship?
Why do you hand over this dominance to a mere boyfriend, a random man because he's promised to marry you?
Why do you give this power over your own body to ordinary friends who’re pressuring you to have sex because that’s what they do too.
Why do you, a student who has nothing to feed on or feed your baby on hand over this authority to a man who cleary doesn't have your best interest at heart but only wants to use you to meet his sexual urges?
If women understand that they're in TOTAL control of their sexual lives, they'd not be giving this control to mere boyfriends. They'd not be having sex randomly if the other party nor get sense. They'd understand that they OWN this control and
nobody can take it away from them.
And in the event that they do still wanna have sex, they understand the consequences that follow and take charge. You don’t act helpless running around like an headless chicken begging social media strangers for antenatal fees or baby
care items.
You don't say, my boyfriend made me have sex. He promised me marry me.
You don't say, the society forced me to have sex.
You don't say my parents forced me to have sex with anyone.
You don’t say my friends make me have sex, they were all mocking me.
You decide IF you wanna have sex.
You decide WHEN you wanna have sex despite living in a sex-craved society.
You decide with WHO you wanna have sex with.
You wear your big girl panties and SAY NO!!
YOU SAY THE FRE@KING NO and walk away!!
Remember, you're not a slave only waiting to receive instructions from her master to take final decisions about her body. You're the master. You’re the CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER OF YOUR BODY. You make the rules. You own this control.
You have this control. You take charge, of your body!
Why?
Because it's your body and yours alone.
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