Today was one of those rare days when I had to front up to my office rather than work from home. Trust me, I wasn't too keen about it as I had to throw on my office-work-attire, a suit, rather than wear my home-office-work-attire which is pretty much whatever happens to get thrown on in the morning. Sometimes just boxer shorts; I'm happy to admit it. There is a certain amount of enjoyment that comes from chatting on the phone with clients in one's boxer shorts. đ
After doing the rounds, saying hello to people I hadn't seen for a few weeks I settled down in my personal office and did some work. I had a pile of scanning and printing to do which is why I went to the office in the first place and I made some calls too. I worked long and hard for one hour...That's right, a whole hour, then decided it was time for a coffee.
I headed to 33 Chapel, my working-week go-to café and grabbed some lunch, a pretty tasty risotto ai funghi e spinaci (Spinach and mushroom risotto), and settled in to do a few comments on hive. I added in a friand and coffee after lunch too because, why not right?
I'll be honest with you, the last few weeks have pretty bad for me from a personal standpoint. We have had a lot going on lately and Faith and I have been through the emotional wringer. It's not letting up as Faith is now undergoing testing for cancer which is still rolling out. It's been a relentless year and looks like it's not improving just yet.
At times I feel like I'm going under, certainly that it would be easier to pack it all in...But that's not how life is for me; It's not in my nature and so I work on finding the good things and jumping from one to the other, like rocks in the creek, trying to deal with the consequences of missing one along the way. What other choice is there?
Faith and I are a tight unit; We are not the give up types and have faced all sorts of adversity together over the thirty three years we have been together. I would say that our ability to deal with adversity and come out the other end strong and together is one of our strong points...But we feel a little battered and bruised sometimes and now is one of those times.
We each have our own way of dealing with things personally at times like this and for me one of those ways is to detach from society when possible...That's why I come here to the café where I can simply zone-out, write a little bit, or read. I also go shooting to do zone-out and I used to ride my motorbike for the same reason also...All good ways to detach.
Battlefield commanders are trained to detach when decision-making is required in combat situations; They often do that by simply turning their back to the action, firefight or battle. It provides a brief respite allowing them to make much better decisions...You'll find many in the military will do the same...A JTAC for instance. Calling in close fire support from the air requires precision and clarity of thought; A mistake often results in friendly-fire casualties, so they are trained to detach from the battle and find clarity of thought, even when they are right there in it!
I think we can learn a lot from that example and in my life I work hard to detach from the situation and society so I can see it more clearly; It is this aspect of my personality that has allowed for better clarity of thought, better decision-making and a more stable emotional state of being.
So, here I am, detaching with my friand and coffee. I've come to no solutions as yet, just the understanding that I need to ensure that the people around me know how I feel about them, Faith and my other family; It's them that are the most important aspects of my life and it's incredibly important not to get so enmeshed in life's adversity that one forgets to say and do the right things for them. After all, it is those people that make my life complete.
I hope you're having a great day, and that you might find the time to tell someone you love or appreciate them; Trust me, you'll feel better, and so will they.
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default - Tomorrow isn't promised.
Be well
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