I grew up to the love of my father, we shared a special bond, he was my favorite person, there is this sunshine of smiles that rests on my face whenever I see him. He was indeed my first love.
This love was so strong and it was nothing compared to what my little heart could comprehend at that time, I could tell him anything and not feel ashamed this made my mum so jealous, my siblings was not left out of this rope too. Although we spent times apart; that little distance could not bridged the love I had for him. He had a very demanding job that gives him little or no time for his family, when I grew older, I began to resent his job, because it was stealing my precious time with him.
He was keen on in stilling morals to us and his teaching of values were a fun filled time, whenever he starts his stories I get so drawn to each words that left his mouth. Of course daddy was a disciplinary, tough and strict, but there was this softness attached to him, He happens to be the most softest person I have ever met, so emotional and very compassionate; We all got that part from him.
Daddy taught us the importance of unity and hard work, the dividends of earnest earning, he taught me the true meaning of love and never to hold back in expressing myself, the value of memories shared and the love for humanity. He taught me what respect means and to be able to distinguish the difference between a man that loves and respects me from the who knows nothing about love.
I can still recall most of the times when daddy had to leave for work; and I will cry my little heart out wanting to go with him anywhere that he went just so I can be close to him, his attention towards me and his gifts whenever he runs made me feel more special, there and there I bagged the title DADDY’S GIRL. I loved the name because indeed I was daddy’s girl.
But everything turned drastically when he left for a journey of no returns, my heart shattered into a million pieces, when the news got to me the last thing I remember was me slipping onto the floor with a hard fall, the sounds I was hearing was the piercing cry of my mother “saying oh! No my baby cannot faint on me now, I never truly recovered from that, I just had to move on with the pieces, I became angry, and distance, why was life so unfair, I had so many questions I needed answers that only daddy could give. When I grew much older, I began to realize that heavens gain is earth lost, and all that daddy taught us about valuing memories all made sense to me. I decided it was time to move on not from his memories but from my angers and broken hearts, because he never really left us, he is in our heart and in our memories for ever, there I began to appreciate all his teachings, morals and life lessons which he left and a slate for us to always fall back to whenever we are face with any challenging.
There is a great connection between female children and their father, this great bond I have come to watch carefully, it comes naturally and it plays a very important role in the Girl CHILD life, it makes up 70percent of their adulthood. As a mother you owe your daughters the right to give them a good father, they learn mostly with their fathers. Who you choose as a father for them matters a lot. They will be able to handle emotional breakdown later in life depending on who FATHERED them, they can be able to differentiate a man who loves and respects them from the who is abusive and controlling, they learn their Self worthy from the way their father plays his roles in the life of their mother. Every Girl Child is entitled to have a good morally upright father.
Remember who you choose as a partner matters In everything there is to you and the family you plan creating, let us be aware of our decisions and choices, let us come together morally upright to save our children from abuses and traumas, let’s put our thought together to create a better atmosphere for them to live and grow in healthily. If we can save our children we wouldn’t have to give our time and efforts to repair broken adults.
Fathers you are the eyes of your daughter, you are the shield they need to feel home and safe, you are their path way to making right decisions when it comes to emotions, love and expressions towards the male gender, you are their light and superhero. Play your roles well and diligently.
More welcoming are still pouring in; as I welcome myself to this great community once again.
Love joandpeekpoet.