Until you value yourself, no one else will value you

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In our everyday activities, we come across different kinds of people. Those who are satisfied by themselves, those who are satisfied with what the world has offered to them and those who are dissatisfied with both themselves and the world, as such feels less valued by others. From all these kinds of people, I have come to understand that more than average of the less valuation complained persons are self-inflicted. Expecting others to value means you need to have a self-value for yourself. Yesterday, I had a conversation with a friend on this matter and he made this statement, “you don’t market a product that doesn’t exist”. This simply means, for people to see value in you, you must truly possess this value. Before you complain that people don’t value you, asked this simple question to yourself, why is it so? Am I the cause or did they choose on their own to be cruel? It is important to observe one’s fault and avoid foolish fight that will further advertise your stupidity to those to observe you. We can’t ignorantly expect people to see in us what doesn’t exist.

What does adding value to ourselves means?

Adding value to ourselves means making a different regardless of how little it is, in the lives of others. We experience these good feelings when we do something good to others. In addition, adding value to the live of others makes them value us even more than we can imagine. Remember the law of the mirror which says that you must see value in yourself to add value to yourself. One thing we need to understand is the fact that the value we place on ourselves is the same value others places in us.

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How do we add value to ourselves?

Add value to one self requires some specific ways of doing things and some of that I will discuss now.

• Expand your general knowledge
  Knowledge is the secret to breaking free. Our brains always need simulating activities to stay healthy. Expanding our general knowledge leads to self-confidence and an independent way of life. Having knowledge of things helps us rely solemnly on ourselves and add greater value us when used in service to others.

• Trust yourself to make good decisions
  If you are the type that fears how others will look at them, then all your decisions will be bias base on the fact, they will be based on the opinion of others. Being capable of making decisions for yourself gives a self-satisfaction and help for easy identification of fault in a case of failed decision. You will be building your strength and doing yourself a great kindness when you develop this attitude of decisiveness. Lastly, trusting yourself to make good decision is the only way to get others to trust you.

• Stop comparing yourself to others
  Understand that everyone operates on their own time zone and at the pace of their space. Comparing yourself to others will only ditch you deeper in mess. The only comparison that should exist in your life should be your yesterday and your today, this will help build a better you of tomorrow.

• Try as much as possible to be self-dependent
  Dependency in others seems to be the easiest way to throw one’s value to the mud. Although we all need each other in our life journey, being able to solve your problems keeps you free from devaluation. When your problems are constantly solved by others, your worth to them diminishes

• Move Beyond your limitations
  It’s not convenient but its worth it. you can’t keep relying on your comfort zone. Try new things even if they are not convenient for you. Whether you win or fails at it, at least you gained more knowledge from it. Accept discomfort, build confidence and push past your limits.

• Guard your thoughts
  Controlling one’s thought can be challenging but it’s a process that gets easier when you have developed the techniques. Try and develop a positive mindset by constantly using your mind for the good things. Avoid those things that is filled with negativity, you can achieve this by keeping yourself busy with something positive. Lastly, filter the information you let in your mind.

• Be conscious of your associations
  The human mind is more like a programmed chip. It records and saves information constantly presented to it. The people you associate yourself with can influence your ways of thinking and your life-style. It is better to stay alone than stay with fools. Always have in mind that your associations alone can be used to define you.

• Show gratitude to efforts
  When people offer to help, whether or not the result comes out successful or failed, avoid excessive complain. Show gratitude to their efforts. A little smile and thank you wouldn’t hurt.

Others that are not explained but are very importance are:

• Do not settle for less
• Find a way to serve others
• Do not make yourself readily available to people at all times.

In conclusion, I believe this little piece has impacted more knowledge to the readers and I encourage all readers to stay turn to my page for more interesting write ups. I'm also available for private write ups. Feel free to contact me through my discord provided below.

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