Today I woke up with news, the mother of a friend had passed away, just like that, without knowing that she had diabetes, she suffered a serious complication and died. I can't imagine the horrible pain he must be feeling, it must not be easy to lose the most loved one in our lives, without even wanting to wait for him. And I say wait for him because it is not the same to know that someone is sick and most probably to think about his death as to have it all happen overnight. I don't see it the same way, although the suffering must be the same.
Yes I go through grief, of course, and surely many of you do too, in my case I have lost my paternal grandmother and my paternal grandfather, and certainly it is not easy, they are very different feelings since a mother is not compared to anything, but it is a feeling that almost all of us have experienced or more than a feeling is a situation. "THE GRIEF."
Mourning makes us fall into many emotions, we go from going into shock and not believing that it is happening, entering a process of denial, to collapse completely, feel sadness, anger, that the world fell on us, that nothing makes sense, in my case with my grandmother I felt an immense sadness, that old lady as I call her was with me completely special, a unique grandmother, and I miss her with all my being.
We know that these are stages in life, just as we arrive in this world we also leave, although those of us who remain here are dying inside. It will sound very trite and all, but they are situations that we must learn to overcome and not get stuck.
In my opinion yes, we need some time perhaps alone for some, for others it is better to be surrounded by their other loved ones, everything depends on how each one assumes, but this time should help us to accept the situation, to learn to live again but without that loved one, because life goes on like this we do not want to accept it at that time.
Many times we feel that a part of us is no longer there, that we remain incomplete, and perhaps yes, that is what I felt, but unfortunately many people we love will leave this world, some with reason from nowhere, and there is nothing we can do to prevent it, we just have to make the most of them, because you never know when the last day will be.
It is horrible to see the empty swing, it is horrible to see the right side of the bed full of only memories, to see the couch of our house without his presence, it is horrible not to have his advice day by day or not to have his good night kisses. These are absences that cannot be replaced, but which we must accept.
It is the cycle of life, although to many of us it seems out of place, because what is the point of being born and loving people and then losing them? I think it's illogical, but that's the way it is, we only have one chance to do and undo, so let's take advantage of it and if it's next to our loved ones, so much the better.
Have you ever lost someone? Have you experienced pain like that? What do you think about how illogical life is sometimes?
