Frustrated and confused Tayo fully armed with his first class result walked out dejectedly out of the manager’s office, he had failed to secure a job for the 6th time, six different companies- six different complaints.
“This was not the life I envisioned for myself while in school” he thought to himself, working hard to graduate with a good grade.
After six years Tayo had submitted his CV in different organizations all to no avail, frustrated he decided there was nothing in life for him and so he decided it was best he committed suicide, he walked into the nearby bush and the next thing seen of him was his lifeless body being carried out to the morgue.
Few days after his burial, his name was enlisted amongst the first class students from his university that were shortlisted for scholarship outside the country.
Frustration can be a very powerful emotion that can either push us through a barrier or cause us to stumble and fall. Just like Tayo in our story, success has met so many persons absent because they gave in to frustration. In our society today, suicide rate is on the increase and when the cause of the suicide is investigated it will be discovered that 98% of the causes of suicide is frustration. Frustration has driven so many persons out of relevance.
In this article we will be discussing possible ways by which we can overcome frustration.
Build a Positive mindset: frustration as we stated earlier is a strong emotion, it means frustration takes place in the mind.
To overcome this strong emotion you must first of all build a positive mindset, never let the thought of failure cloud your mind, be positive, when what you are focused on is the thought of how you failed and how you are not able to amount to anything in life instead of placing your focus and concentration on possible ways to be successful, what you are doing is that you are paving the way for frustration to set in.
Frustration comes when you create the right atmosphere for it to thrive. The fact that you did not make it now doesn’t mean you won’t make it tomorrow, the kind of mindset you keep determines whether you will be frustrated or not.
Focus: This is very important if you must overcome frustration, after building a positive mindset the next step is to lock your gaze on your desired result, when you are focused on achieving success, you lose the luxury of thinking of your past failures and inabilities. Isolate yourself out of the zone of failure, let what comes into your mind be positive, then let the result of that thought that enters into your mind build focus in you.
Tayo gave up too early because he had clouded his mind with the thought of his past failures and his inability to get a job to the point where his focus was shifted from the end result to his present circumstance. When your past influences your now, then you are open to frustration but when what influences your now is your future, I can guarantee you that frustration will not have any influence over you.
Develop strategies for success: whenever you come in contact with failure, instead of lamenting on how you failed and how you were unable to make something out of your quest, you should sit down and analyze the factors that were responsible for your failure and how to eliminate them in the next pursuit of success. Men of strategy are men associated by success, there is a popular saying that if you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. Men who see their failures as building blocks for their success can never get frustrated in the face of failure.
Frustration sets in when you resign to the thought of failure. If you want to avoid frustration, then you must get ready to settle down and make adequate plans and preparations that will bring success.
Overcome your fear of failure: Nothing frustrates a man like fear, never give in to fear, believe that the worst thing that can happen to you is that you fail, and whenever you fail create a strong resolve to try again. When you get busy at pursuing success, you will not have any time to pay attention to frustration. Kill fear, most of the time men FAIL before FAILING because they lack confidence in their dreams.
Never be afraid of failing rather be afraid of failing and not trying again. If you conquer you’re your fears, then frustration is shut out for good.
Surround yourself the right company: Never make friends with individuals who make you feel pressured to succeed, the kind of company you keep goes a long way to affecting your level of productivity. Surround yourself with persons whose aim is to succeed, people of like mind, who will offer you words of encouragement and support when it is needed.
If the kinds of company you keep are people who think negative, people who are not headed in the same direction as you, then be ready to be frustrated in no distant time. Successful people pay close attention to the kind of friends they keep. They guard their relationships jealously because the friends you keep go a long way in either making you successful or ensuring that you fail.
Finally, the most important way to overcome frustration is to focus on the outcome of success, that beautiful ending that you envision for yourself, strive for it, do not give, success is just few blocks away.
Never let frustration drive you away from the path of success. Never see yourself as a failure, believe in your dreams, believe that what you see and experience now is just a phase that won’t last forever. Success lasts longer than failure. Never give up, keep trying, and keep fighting.
It is either success or nothing; never accept failure as your end result.