One very important thing that builds and strengthens any relationship is trust. However, trust is not a virtue that is gifted, it is built over time by being transparently honest and open with one another. There is no doubt that there are things you will need to keep from other people but when it comes to the person you are in a serious relationship with, it always pays to be as open as you can.
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Imagine how you will feel when you get to hear a major secret about your partner from outside and they never cared to tell you about it for the long period you have been in the relationship with them. When you consider this, then you will know that it is not worth the relationship. For someone that constantly keeps unnecessarily small secrets, you will be surprised the large ones they are already keeping from you.
A particular friend of mine was in a relationship with a lady. They first met in a friends birthday party and they got attracted to each other. They exchanged contacts and that was how they started talking. What started like a joke and like a normal friendship became a very serious relationship that even both parents already know about each other. The guy knew the lady's siblings including the little girl that she was staying with.
The little girl called her "sister" and all he thought that she was the least of her siblings until one day, he got to know that the girl was her daughter that she had while in college. The guy was disappointed that she could hide something like this from him all these while. I mean, if she could hide this, he might not know what else she might be hiding too. It would have been better she told him all these while and it would not have changed anything because the guy loved the girl very well, but now, he already has a double mind about her.
You see, there are secrets that are not worth keeping at all because they will still come out and they will make a mess of the person's whole relationship. To build up trust in the heart of your partner, it will take time and will take work. However, the trust can be crashed by a seemingly harmless act of misdeeds.
It is always worth it to be open to your partner because that is why it is called "relationship". If you give your partner the room to start suspecting that you have secrets you are keeping, they may lose trust in you and it may crack the walls of the relationship.
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The truth may not be too convenient in some cases but it is always better for it to be said, at least for the sake of the future of your relationship. There are some people that trust their partners with their whole being that they can go any length to defend that trust. This is as a result of constantly doing what will build trust in the heart of your partner. Here is a parting advice; "if you want absolute trust, then you have to earn it".
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