In recent months we have seen many news where you can see the problems that exist today in couples. The way in which each couple communicates is very particular to each one and of course they have their own problems, perhaps some have chosen to follow certain models such as that of their parents, grandparents or even friends, however, this can mean that the same problems keep repeating themselves, since those models do not adapt to their needs. Lack of communication is behind many conflicts, it seems very repetitive but it is a clearly observable reality.

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In my opinion I believe that the most important thing is to see the problems that at couple level can be presented to us, it is not wrong to follow advice from our parents or people with experience, what we should not do is to make the same mistakes and so we can to cultivate healthier relationships and grow as a person. We should not be satisfied just for the fact of following certain social patterns, if it is not what we want and we do not like it, we must work to change, thus avoiding failures and breakups.

Communication is key in every relationship, especially between the couple to form solid bases, to be an example for their children and to promote it with the whole family. It may not be easy for all of us to communicate, but we must learn and practice certain skills that will be of great help.

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We can start with developing empathy, many times we believe that just because we have been next to a person for years we know everything about them, what they think and what they feel, well I tell you that many studies indicate that this is far from being true because we are almost always wrong. To be empathic we must simply be able to put ourselves in the other person's shoes, and try to understand their point of view and thus have an appreciation of how they may feel, imagine with our eyes closed for a moment to be the other person and think about their concerns, their expectations, their reality, this skill is key to communication.

When we feel upset or frustrated, what we most want is that our partner understands us and seeks to know why we feel that way, and just by conveying their opinions with sympathy we can experience some relief, and it will be easier to express what we have accumulated, the tension is released and it is easier to have expressions of affection in the couple. This is part of the emotional validation, improves relationships because the other person feels listened to, understood, thus increasing trust in the couple.

Honesty is also very important, we must show ourselves as we are, be able to accept mistakes, in this way we can trust each other, its absence can destroy the couple instantly, even though there is love. Any relationship that is based on deceit or lies does not last for long.

We should not focus on who is right or who has the truth in their hands, since each one has a truth and a reason to expose, the important thing is that both get a solution and understand each other. I want to emphasize that what should be sought is that the opinion of one does not prevail over the other, if in the relationship it is felt that both have an interest to reach a common good, they will live with the feeling that they care for each other.

If these skills are practiced, it will be easier to overcome problems or emotional distance that may exist. Always taking care of what you want to express and the way you do it.

Thanks for reading, see you next time!