Gretings everyone 🙌
Life happens, believe it and be at peace so that you won't begin to question your own sanity. There are certain occurences that we have no control over and when the deed is done, it would be unreasonable to cry over spilled milk. Marriage is a beautiful arrangement for procreation and companionship but this is dependent on the parties involved.
It is two good heads that are better than one and this is so important especially in marriage. Now when it comes to marrying a single parent, the whole game changes. Firstly, let me say it proudly that there's nothing wrong with marrying a single parent. It is neither a sin nor is it a crime and I would gladly marry a single father myself. The issue for me would depend on certain key factors which I would be sharing below but first let's understand some things so as to why some persons ended up becoming single parents;
It could be as a result of the death of a spouse early on in marriage*.
It could be as a result of deception on the part of a spouse, who refuses to uphold the promises of together forever.
It could also be as a result of running away from physical abuse in a relationship even though children are involved*.
It could be as a result of sexual abuse (rape) resulting in pregnancy*.
It could be as a result of frolicking around and promiscuous lifestyle. e.tc
The above stipulated reasons are some of the ways many persons end up becoming single parents but the last point is where I would draw the line. If as a lady or guy, you lived your life in a wayward manner, sleeping with every "tom, dick and harry" in the name of enjoying your life and eventually kids come out of such relationship, then I would not get married to such a person. This is my personal preference. I hate cheating in relationship the most and a man who lives his life waywardly while single will not change even in marriage. In fact after marriage there would still be news of his incoming baby ofeom someone else and I can't deal wth that.
But if the man happens to be widowed of his spouse and a child or children are left behind or his wife dumps him due to financial constraints and runs off with a rich guy.........if the man is responsible, kind, honest and loyal and shares the same faith, then I can marry him and accept his child or children as my own.
Another factor that might dissuade me from marrying a man with children is if the children sonot like or want me. I have heard stories where the children of one parent manipulate and scatter the marriage of the parent. Some even go as far doing diabolic things to frustrate the new parent. I am for peace and I would not like to encounter such heart breaking things.
Marriage is beautiful but complicated and for a woman, marriage is like a second life for herx so it is very important to get it right and not get married because of pressure. Single parents who wish to get remarried should endeavour to have the support of both family and kids so that the new partner will feel welcomed.
Thank you all for reading. This is my emtry to the #hivegahana community weekly-engagement for week 71.
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