I will always advise people not to rush into marriage. The rate of divorce in our dispensation is increasing drastically. I love it when I see people share marital vows, it is so beautiful and you would be tempted to run to the altar and drag one person alongside you so you can recreate that moment. Well, it’s not that easy as there is more to marriage.
I frown when I see older people or even young ones force people into marriage. They see it as a societal norm so everyone is supposed to do it at a particular age. People are pushed and forced into marriages only for it to lead to divorce which most times ends with an emotional crisis. You see people say “You’re 30 you should be married” Most times these statements leave the next person broken. I will always say that Marriage isn’t something one needs to rush into there are so many factors that need to be considered.
I can’t go into marriage if I am not financially independent, I do not want to be broke financially and then go into marriage with all my burden on the next person. That is the same way I think most people rush into marriage without finances for even the bare minimum. Then they say “Let’s have a child and the child will bring blessing” Little by little, they start raising a family and they can not fend for themselves. I will always believe that money is very important in marriage. We are not going to feed on love. You might not be financially buoyant but at least there is a level of financial stability one should have before going into marriage.
Love is crucial in marriage, well love and money together will make a union more enjoyable. It is one thing to marry someone with whom you do not share an atom of feelings. A marriage without love and understanding might end up not working out. Most people will say they just need a marriage with money and love doesn’t matter but to me, I need both to make a marriage work. I want a marriage where we share a deep bond and then we are financially stable.
Most times we end up having the opinion that money is all that matters in marriage but in the long run you would become tired of tolerating the next person and would just want to divorce. So I believe that for marriage to work there needs to be love, understanding, and finances. When there is one missing, things tend to become exhausting at some point. There is nothing as great as coming home to the one you love and enjoying the random and good things in life.
There could be love and you get married, with no source of income, and you and your spouse are both broke, it will come to a point where you will lose feelings for yourselves because all you think about is how to raise money for food or one thing or the other, it gets to a point that you will be thinking of money and then your spouse says “I love you” you would become irritated.
I would go into a marriage where there is both love and money because both complement each other. “Love is sweet but when there is money involved Love is sweeter”
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