Love alone is not enough to sustain a marriage. I have heard of marriages that crumbled within the first two years, and some could not even survive the first month.
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People sometimes marry for the wrong reasons. Some go for fine face and physique but forget character. Others marry for money and ignore who their partner truly is until they are living together and discover it's something they can't cope with. By then, it's already too late, and the story often ends in divorce.
There are many things I personally see as deal breakers in marriage, and I will be listing them one by one with the reasons behind them.
I am not only speaking for myself but for most men. Cheating is our number 1 deal breaker. No man likes another man to have intimacy with his wife; it hurts to the bone marrow, and it is an unforgivable offense!
I also believe that for your partner to cheat on you, it means love is no longer in that household, cos if she still loves you, she will never think of cheating on you with another man. So no matter how I love my partner, no matter the future plans we had, once that happens, it is over, and no one can make it work.
Men love to be respected, and any relationship or marriage that lacks it would crumble fast. I can't be feeding and taking good care of you, and the only thing you have for me is disrespect, either at home or in public; it is never allowed! And the end result could be a broken home when the man reaches his limit.
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This is another thing that can push a marriage toward divorce. This happens when the in-laws won't stop poking their noses into the couple's affairs, and to make it worse, they expect the husband to cater for them too.
Some in-laws really cross the line when they start asking their son-in-law for money. It shouldn't be happening. If they need something, they should tell their daughter, and she can ask her husband. His answer may be yes or no, depending on whether he has it. But when the in-laws ask him directly, they only put themselves in an awkward position - Especially if he doesn't have it.
It is even worse when the daughter is always telling her family everything that is happening in your house, and they start telling her what to do, which ends up affecting your home. This often ends badly between the couple, esp when the in-laws still intervene whenever there is an issue between them. No man likes to be controlled in his own home.
Those three things mentioned above are some of my deal breakers in a marriage, and I would never tolerate them. It is fine if it leads to divorce rather than to stay in a toxic relationship.
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