It's sad that the term marriage I used to know in the early 2000s isn't what it used to be. The truth is that this change didn't just start with our generation; it was something that had been happening since the early 1900s without anyone realizing it, but it has become the norm in the 21st century.
What you're about to read now might look like a scientific explanation for why marriage isn't what it used to be, but I will make you understand because I will explain it in layman's words.
There was a factor introduced into marriage that changed the whole perspective of the thing called marriage. People used to believe in "Till death do us part," but now when one person in the marriage is trying to bring death upon the other person, something needs to be done, and this factor was introduced, which is none other than "Mr. Divorce."
One thing many couples love to do now is court marriage because they have this thought at the back of their minds: "If it doesn't work out, I will divorce him or her." This thought has actually affected a lot of young couples going into marriages because they already see divorce as an escape route for a marriage that doesn't work out.
I attended a wedding in January. The wedding was meant to happen in December but was moved to January. The young couples really wanted to get married in December, and the excitement was high, but the family had to convince them so they could move the wedding to January. The wedding was held in January in grand style. I was one of the guys making sure things went well during the wedding, but it is sad to say that yesterday, a divorce was filed so they could go their separate way.
I really don't know what happened, but divorce should be the first option, based on the information I got. The lady was always on her phone and didn't cook, which got her husband angry. He asked him to go get food outside, which he did, and the word she said was, "Now that you ate out, did you die?"
I don't know what kind of relationship they had before the marriage, but is that enough to break them up? Nope right? Well, the lady had her complaint, and the guy had his. The conclusion of the matter now is that they can't live together anymore, and they want to separate.
This factor that has been added to marriage has made many people think marriage is not a do-or-die affair, which I believe it is not, but too many rules that bond people together in their marriage have been changed, and so many loopholes to run out of a marriage have been found.
Currently, I don't think there is anything in this world right now that can keep a marriage apart from love!! If there is no love in a marriage, there is no friendship and understanding. Money, sex, luxury, and other vanity that can be achieved in marriage cannot keep a marriage.
I hope I have been able to explain the factor to you. Thanks for reading.