Marriage is an institution where they give you your certificate before graduation, that's if you ever graduate. It an institution where the both parties keep learning about themselves and adjusting to fit and suit their individual roles.
After the marriage, they both become one and they choose to share life together. They make decisions together, and carry each other along.
My peace is very important.
So, I believe that in marriage openness is important. They couple should feel free around each other.
However, trust is the basic and most important foundations for a strong home and relationships. Once trust is missing, doubt creeps in and any relationship built on lies will keep having issues.
That said, forcing access doesn’t build trust. If my partner doesn’t want me to check his phone, I will let it be. Suspicion alone can destroy peace. If someone is hiding something, constant checking won’t fix it—it will only create more tension. Personally, if it becomes a battle, I’d rather keep my phone away too.
I wouldn't check the phone for my peace of mind. But I would have an honest conversation if I have any doubts.
If you truly want to protect your home, sometimes it’s wiser to avoid digging where you’re not ready for the outcome. But if your intuition is strong and you decide to check for clarity, then do so only when you’ve made peace with whatever you might find.
Trust, honesty, and communication matter more than checking your spouse cell phone.