Its true we all have different perspectives to how we want to raise our kids, ofcourse I've gone through some content about how different folks want to raise their children, no matter how we want to argue it, no one will ever want their children to repeat or ever go through what they all experience going through .....
I have watched my Dad hustle day and night, I felt his struggles for us, always coming home late and leaving very early just to put food on the table for us, i knew he did his best but then it was overwhelming, was it his fault? I strongly believe that we human we are wired with a genuine sense of love and care especially for what's ours and so it's natural that we go all out for our own...
I believe that this is the essence of life that we intend to outgrow and outlive the experience we had as kids, so definitely we all want to give our kids a better life, but then setting limits and boundaries are very necessary, cause you see we have different approaches to what this is, the degree to which we love and care matters, and in what perspectives do we communicate love to our children.
Let's say to a parent love means making necessary provisions to their kids, bringing a housemaid to do all the chores at home:cook, clean. Watch, drop off at school and pickup, so that the kids can spare time to study and do other things they didn't get the chance to, meanwhile to another parent these children will have to do all the work create study time doing all of these is helping them prepare for tomorrow.
To the parent this is love but to the child, it could be punishment, not feeling loved.
Just like most of us now looking back at those things our parent scolded us to do we thought was punishment now we realise that it was indeed a good thing....so in conclusion what we term to mean love varies on how we want to raise our kids but then we should look at the long run effect of our actions now, yes you could be wealthy but what if life happens?...whatever our actions is now will tell in their lives tomorrow and the kind of adults they will become.....
